Darren Taylor Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 lol You think just because a woman wants a man she likes, she can have him? Comparing both your attitudes, she has a far better chance of getting him than you.
orangelady Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Comparing both your attitudes, she has a far better chance of getting him than you. I approached a couple of guys in my life and ALL rejected me and went for my HOT looking friend instead. I have learned throughout the course of my life that a woman's value and worth is based on her body and face.
Darren Taylor Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I approached a couple of guys in my life and ALL rejected me and went for my HOT looking friend instead. I have learned throughout the course of my life that a woman's value and worth is based on her body and face. If you think your looks is all you have, that says more about you than the guys that turned you down.
orangelady Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If you think your looks is all you have, that says more about you than the guys that turned you down. I have a lot other than my looks, but guys don't care about that. They don't care if I am nice or kind or considerate. They'll take me as a friend, but not a special someone coz I'm not hot. That's the difference.
makelemonade1974 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I think there are ways of letting a guy know you are interested without blatantly asking them out. Toss out a few crumbs and then let them do the chasing. I agree with orangelady - aggressively pursuing a man has a stigma attached to it. For example, this word "cougar" that is associated with the self-assured older woman who prefers younger men illustrates this point. She's characterized as predatory rather than attractive.
Darren Taylor Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I have a lot other than my looks, but guys don't care about that. They don't care if I am nice or kind or considerate. They'll take me as a friend, but not a special someone coz I'm not hot. That's the difference. And even then, how many guys does that apply to? That doesn't apply to all guys. I never had any interest in extremely hot girls. Try approaching either less attractive guys or befriend guys first. Guys aren't so quick to friend zone girls.
Rinnix Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I have a lot other than my looks, but guys don't care about that. They don't care if I am nice or kind or considerate. They'll take me as a friend, but not a special someone coz I'm not hot. That's the difference. You just haven't been meeting the right guys. I have a lot more to offter than my looks as well, and they can see it. I doubt your looks are a problem, your too hard on yourself.
Rinnix Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I think there are ways of letting a guy know you are interested without blatantly asking them out. Toss out a few crumbs and then let them do the chasing. I agree with orangelady - aggressively pursuing a man has a stigma attached to it. For example, this word "cougar" that is associated with the self-assured older woman who prefers younger men illustrates this point. She's characterized as predatory rather than attractive. A woman can ask a guy out without being overbearing or predatory. We can ask a man out while being classy. Asking a guy to go to dinner or for his # shouldn't be looked down upon. As for cougars, they usually get what they want.
AD1980 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I try the eye contact and smile thing allot and i never even get a women to glance at me or look in my direction never mind smile or something i can even mistake for interest just no look at all like im invisible..
EasyHeart Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I think there are ways of letting a guy know you are interested without blatantly asking them out. Toss out a few crumbs and then let them do the chasing.Apparently, you are so good at this that it even works on guys that you're NOT interested in. . . . (PS: Yes, I know I'm an ***. No need to tell me.)
thehead Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I got a double take tonight. It is all in the grin. I 100% agree!
Lilmisus Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Most of the time, I'm in my own little world as well, so I don't really pay attention to those around me. If I do happen to notice a guy that I find attractive, I lock eyes with him and smile, and surprisingly often he smiles back. Sometimes they walk by and say hi or try to strike up conversation, but if I'm out and about, I'm typically in a hurry with no time for small talk..even with a cutie. Regardless, it's a huge ego boost, especially if I'm having a bad day. Ross, you're handsome. I don't need to tell you that. I've never seen you in person (obviously) but your picture is very attractive. I don't know how you carry yourself, and how much confidence you have left or how much confidence you portray when you're out and about, but that could be why you aren't getting lucky with any of these ladies that you see around. Confidence is key when approaching a girl or winning her over, so whatever confidence you have left, use it. Next time that you see a girl give you the double take or smile at you, give a friendly smile back, maybe even say something cute. Go from there. You have the looks already, so go for it, you have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain
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