cerridwen Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) Ross, as you read, we women can be stealthy about sneaking looks. That said, you have a good build and a nice face. It's very likely at least one of those women you caught looking, was admiring you. It won't cost you anything to look at this with optimism. To answer the question you posted mid-thread, yes, some might have simply been people watching; others though, they might have been taken with your face and/or body. Edited May 11, 2011 by cerridwen
Stung Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Well, there have been a few occasions where I've been just kind of waiting for someone, casually people-watching, and then I've caught myself daydreaming and gazing off into the distance only the distance was actually a person who thought I was staring at them specifically. So, that does happen. However, part of learning how to make your life happen the way you want it to is to ask questions when you want an answer, and to approach someone you want to meet. If you are no longer content to sit on the sidelines and feel depressed about missed opportunities and life passing you by, the only remedy is to take action. One very common signal women give is the look. You're not being unreasonable by approaching if you think you are intercepting this signal. Sometimes you will be mistaken, and you might feel a bit foolish or she might be kind of a bitch about it which sucks, but that is life. Sometimes you will be correct and she will welcome your approach and something could bloom and take root. That is also life, and it's worth living.
Darren Taylor Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Ross, as you read, we women can be stealthy about sneaking looks. That said, you have a good build and a nice face. It's very likely at least one of those women you caught looking, was admiring you. It won't cost you anything to look at this with optimism. To answer the question you posted mid-thread, yes, some might have simply been people watching; others though, they might have been taken with your face and/or body. I agree. Surely, there had to be at least a few women that were attracted to him. I've seen ugly men before and Ross isn't one of them.
Waitress Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I am often in my own little world but sometimes a guy will snap me out of it with the way he smiles or looks at me. I do try and smile when a guy I don't know holds a door open or does something else courteous. That attracts me more actually than looks.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Ross, the next time you notice a female checking you out, look at her in the eyes, smile and wink at her. If she was checking you out because she liked you then she will smile back and keep looking at you (maybe even blush and quickly look away). Keep throwing glances at her and if she reciprocates then walk up to her and strike up a convo. Believe me this will work if she is into you! I just haven't got enough guts to do that.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Well, there have been a few occasions where I've been just kind of waiting for someone, casually people-watching, and then I've caught myself daydreaming and gazing off into the distance only the distance was actually a person who thought I was staring at them specifically. So, that does happen. However, part of learning how to make your life happen the way you want it to is to ask questions when you want an answer, and to approach someone you want to meet. If you are no longer content to sit on the sidelines and feel depressed about missed opportunities and life passing you by, the only remedy is to take action. One very common signal women give is the look. You're not being unreasonable by approaching if you think you are intercepting this signal. Sometimes you will be mistaken, and you might feel a bit foolish or she might be kind of a bitch about it which sucks, but that is life. Sometimes you will be correct and she will welcome your approach and something could bloom and take root. That is also life, and it's worth living. What is the look? (I'm sure I've asked this on here before, but I can't remember the answer). It won't cost you anything to look at this with optimism. I think the reason why I don't look at this with optimisim, is because I don't want to get my hopes up.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 I agree. Surely, there had to be at least a few women that were attracted to him. I've seen ugly men before and Ross isn't one of them. You don't know how I look in real life though, I may not look anything like these good pictures. And I think there is something else about me that might be stopping women from being attracted to me, like my pheremones are wrong or something.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I actually think women are less responsive to attractive men, than men are to attractive women. Women are more emotional, and men are more physical. Which means that women respond better to personality and mood, and men respond better to what makes their penis rise. I think, if an average guy has a great and charming personality, and is outgoing and makes her feel good, she'd date him over someone who looks like a male model but is boring.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 You are huge! That means you have huge guts! Hmmm, I'm not that big.
Darren Taylor Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I actually think women are less responsive to attractive men, than men are to attractive women. Women are more emotional, and men are more physical. Which means that women respond better to personality and mood, and men respond better to what makes their penis rise. I think, if an average guy has a great and charming personality, and is outgoing and makes her feel good, she'd date him over someone who looks like a male model but is boring. Pretty much. Not that the attractive guy won't get any attention, but hot guys and hot women are not the same.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Pretty much. Not that the attractive guy won't get any attention, but hot guys and hot women are not the same. This is a great excuse for going out and improving your personality. Women respond well to experience and what you're personally involved in. Guys that have exciting lives and are also grounded are well up the dating chain. This means that you should take up sports, you should work out, you should go to college, you should get a good job, you should make some new friends, you should have a wide social circle, you should drink occasionally and go to parties and have fun. If you're older and haven't experienced relationships (like I have), these are things to work on. And smile! Don't take life so seriously. **** happens and then you die, but there's no reason that you can't laugh along the way. One very smart guy once said, "Life is what happens while you're making other plans." John Lennon. Listen to it.
Darren Taylor Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 This is a great excuse for going out and improving your personality. Women respond well to experience and what you're personally involved in. Guys that have exciting lives and are also grounded are well up the dating chain. This means that you should take up sports, you should work out, you should go to college, you should get a good job, you should make some new friends, you should have a wide social circle, you should drink occasionally and go to parties and have fun. If you're older and haven't experienced relationships (like I have), these are things to work on. And smile! Don't take life so seriously. **** happens and then you die, but there's no reason that you can't laugh along the way. One very smart guy once said, "Life is what happens while you're making other plans." John Lennon. Listen to it. Attractive women need personalities as well. But I do agree with your posts.
cerridwen Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 What is the look? (I'm sure I've asked this on here before, but I can't remember the answer). I think the reason why I don't look at this with optimisim, is because I don't want to get my hopes up. I can't see the troll's comments as it's on Ignore. But I encourage you not to respond to it. As far as the look, I'll find a few examples and PM you. Guarding yourself from disappointment is understandable but it also stops you from even getting out of the gate. Working on your pessimism should come first. The mechanics of meeting women comes a bit later. Always rooting for you, Ross!
zebracolors Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You may already know I tend to be shy however I am still a bit of a people watcher. And I don't mean in a stalker creepy way. I tend to observe things about them even when I am busy with my work or eating; clothes, facial features, etc. But its passively looking really. If I see a man that I personally find attractive, like a customer at work or when out shopping at the mall, I do usually take notice. Just to recognize why I find him good-looking, but because I am happy with my SO, that's where it stops.
musemaj11 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Its not that women aren't attracted to guys. Its just that american guys are ugly. We simply don't groom ourselves and nor are we as fashionable as guys from other parts of the world. I met this one young guy who dressed like a celebrity even though he was just walkin around the neighborhood. I knew right away he must be a foreigner and I was right. The guy was visiting from italy. I also know another guy who is an egyptian. He is just a new immigrant working a menial job. But from the clothing he wears you would think he is some hot shot professional.
musemaj11 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 People were getting together and screwing long before fancy duds. Countless women are married to a man they are physically repulsed by. Women marry or have sex with a guy for tons of reasons other than physical attraction.
musemaj11 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Exactly which is why clothes don't make the man. And who said that? I merely suggested that if u wanna be physically attractive, then dress well.
musemaj11 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I just did with the speaking and the lip flapping. Physical attraction is based on one's physique and face. It doesn't depend on their wardrobe. You are grasping at straws now. If u r right then the fashion industry wouldn't exist.
musemaj11 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You have already proven that in America for men it basically doesn't and it only might exist in Italy or Egypt. Cheers. What doesn't exist for men in america?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If you're fashionable, all women believe that you're gay. So that is not really the answer. The normal guy goes around in jeans and a t shirt, and he does rather well. The normal guy who goes around in expensive suits, if he isn't a lawyer or some hotshot professional, is probably gay.
welikeincrowds Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If you're fashionable, all women believe that you're gay. So that is not really the answer. The normal guy goes around in jeans and a t shirt, and he does rather well. The normal guy who goes around in expensive suits, if he isn't a lawyer or some hotshot professional, is probably gay. This is true depending on where you live. It is not at all true where I live. And doubts about your sexuality are just doubts about _______, which strangers have for other strangers until you're not strangers anymore. It only takes a few moments of eye contact and one flirtatious comment to change someone's mind, and that's how it should be. Not to mention you're being misleading. For example, most of the jeans people wear around here cost anywhere from $80-200. Also it's inappropriate to wear jeans in places where one is expected to wear a suit, and vice versa. Regardless of style, everyone benefits from the purchase and wear of well-made, quality clothing. (You do realize the Western contribution to the global economy is through consumption, right?) That doesn't mean you have to spend $150 on jeans, but you could, and they'll last you for years and look amazing on your my ass every step of the way.
Titania22 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 It depends on my mind space at the time. Mostly I would say that I don't even notice, or if I do notice in passing I don't do or say anything. If I happen to be thinking in terms of meeting someone and I see someone attractive and the moment is there, then I may say something or make eye contact. But I never hardcore hit on someone, the first time i see them.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Regardless of style, everyone benefits from the purchase and wear of well-made, quality clothing. (You do realize the Western contribution to the global economy is through consumption, right?) That doesn't mean you have to spend $150 on jeans, but you could, and they'll last you for years and look amazing on your my ass every step of the way. I have always wondered why people pay such exorbitant prices for clothing. I have never spent more than 40 bucks on a pair of jeans, and never more than 10-15 bucks on a (non-dress) shirt. My jeans look great and have lasted for years, same with the shirts. So durability and look can't be the cause of the price difference. Maybe I'm just too old fashioned.
Eeyore79 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I'm a heterosexual female, but I'll admire a good looking person of either gender if I happen to see them in the street, similar to how I'd admire a beautiful piece of art. I'm not necessarily attracted to them or interested in them just because they're beautiful though; they're just pleasing to the eye. I would never approach them and make conversation just because they look nice; good looks are no guarantee that I'll find someone interesting. It would take much more than good looks to make me interested in dating someone, and some beautiful people (of both genders) come across as loud, stupid, badly behaved, egotistical and/or self absorbed, all of which are huge turn offs for me. Attractive people are just eye candy - unless we get to know each other a little and find out that we actually have something in common, and then I might become interested in them.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I'm a heterosexual female, but I'll admire a good looking person of either gender if I happen to see them in the street, similar to how I'd admire a beautiful piece of art. I'm not necessarily attracted to them or interested in them just because they're beautiful though; they're just pleasing to the eye. I would never approach them and make conversation just because they look nice; good looks are no guarantee that I'll find someone interesting. It would take much more than good looks to make me interested in dating someone, and some beautiful people (of both genders) come across as loud, stupid, badly behaved, egotistical and/or self absorbed, all of which are huge turn offs for me. Attractive people are just eye candy - unless we get to know each other a little and find out that we actually have something in common, and then I might become interested in them. I think this is the way most women react. They require something more, like a good personality, before they'll jump in the sack with a guy. Whereas, a guy would go to bed with an attractive woman if she offered, irregardless of her personality. I think the only common thread that both men and women have, is that men also require a good personality for there to be more than sex. Women, on the other hand, require there to be a good personality there for there to BE sex.
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