jfairmont Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 So there is this guy that I like. He has been tutoring me 3 times a week since the end of march. I really like him. I think he is very intelligent and cute. We get along really well and I thought that everytime we talked we got closer. Also everytime he saw me he always tapped his leg against mine. He always looked deep into my eyes and he got me coffee and such. I don't understand. It seemed like he was into me. But I guess he was just being nice. We had really funny conversations together. he emailed me music that he was into and I showed him some music I was into. I teased him a lot, and he teased me back. Everytime we left together and talked on the way to the bus stop and when i needed to go my separate way, he would give me a hug. Then today was the last day of class. So i met up with him thanked him for all the help he gave me. And we talked for a while about current events and whatever and schoolwork finals etc. And then I said so this is the last time we meet for tutoring. He said yeah. I said can I ask you something. He said yes? I said when you gave me that coffee what did that mean? (I am not a very foward person and I wouldn't DARE ask him out, I am really old fashioned and I believe that the boy should ask the girl out, so i subtly wanted him to know that i liked him.) He said that Its just common cortousy. I was like Oh alright. So I said have a great summer. He said you too. And I left.... I really really liked him. Why was he giving me those mixed messages before? I thought he liked me the way I liked him. Should I ask him out or ask how he feels about me? I don't want to come off seeming needy and stuff though.
utterer of lies Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Ask him out, or you will wonder the whole summer what could have been.
Lilmisus Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I agree. Sometimes you have to suck it up and just take initiative, the best way you know how. In this case, I would just e-mail him and tell him thanks again for all the tutoring and ask if he'd like to meet up sometime for coffee or whatever since you enjoyed spending time with him these past few weeks. If he declines, you have your answer, and you can move on. Hopefully he agrees to it though
Author jfairmont Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 do you think that he would be creeped out? i mean, i did ask him what the whole coffee aspect meant to him... Does it seem as though he wants me to make the first move? It seems really desperate and embarrassing to ask him though.
Author jfairmont Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 I agree. Sometimes you have to suck it up and just take initiative, the best way you know how. In this case, I would just e-mail him and tell him thanks again for all the tutoring and ask if he'd like to meet up sometime for coffee or whatever since you enjoyed spending time with him these past few weeks. If he declines, you have your answer, and you can move on. Hopefully he agrees to it though have you done this before? and has it worked? Do guys actually like it when a girl asks them out?
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Perhaps he thought that YOU thought coffee thing was "inappropriate" and was just trying to downplay it. It's not really clear. I would go for it and ask him out. Take the risk P.S. It would only be creepy if he said no and you kept asking him after that.
Pianiste Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I've asked guys out on dates before, never via email but phone/text, and regardless of their answer it was never considered creepy or desperate. I even consider it one of the most fun aspects of dating! It's a great feeling when you finally have the guts to ask somebody you like out on a date and they say yes! :-) And if they say no at least you'll have your answer. :-) I'd say, go for it!
Author jfairmont Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) alrighty well I shot him an email. So hopefully he will reply within the next 24 hrs. This is the first time I ever asked a guy out so hopefully he will say yes. Edited May 10, 2011 by jfairmont
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 alrighty well I shot him an email. So hopefully he will reply within the next 24 hrs. This is the first time I ever asked a guy out so hopefully he will say yes. Good luck and let us know!!
runner Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 when a girl asks me to hang out or have a drink or whatever, i've never interpreted that as 'being needy'; and i don't think most guys do, either. just go for it. nothing wrong with a human need to connect with another human.
Author jfairmont Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Well so far he hasn't contacted me back. I am going to say its due to the semester ending and shtuff because I sent him the email in his school account. Maybe he isn't checking it because of the semester ending. But i really hope he gets back to me. Is it bad that he hasn't answered me back so soon?
Author jfairmont Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) I am pretty convinced that he won't check his school email because of the semester already ending. I am thinking he mentioned he had a facebook and he asked before if I had one. I do not have one. Should i create one and get in contact with him that way? or should I just wait a little longer? And if i wait a little longer, how much longer? Edited May 11, 2011 by jfairmont
Author jfairmont Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 Good luck and let us know!! He has a girlfriend. Great. He said though otherwise I would love to go out and get a cup of coffee with me. He said, who knows what the future holds. Meh. I feel like a piece of crap. At least I know now.... le sigh.
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