guydie Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) I am 23 and my gf is 20. we have been dating since past 4 years and i am her first bf and the only relation she ever had.. everything was perfectly fine until recently when i started given her alot of importance, gifts and beeing needy.. we started fighting alot and she started lieing to me a occassionaly.. we have been on "No Contact" with her since last one month and in june is her birthday.. she has not contacted me yet or sent any msg. Sometime back we were joking and having fun and i mentioned to her "What if i leave you" and she replied "doed this can ever happen" ? which make me think that she take me for granted i suppose.. shall i wish her on her birthday which is next month even if she does not call me ? kindly remember that i have been on "No Contact" since one month and she dint even call me once or sent any txt.. her birthday is in june.. I would also like to tell that she is in her college and nowadays she hardly have time .. but she will be having her holidays from 20th june till 25 July 2011.. and i am expecting that time she she might feel my absence as she will be having nathing to do in that time.. and i also think that she will definitely be expecting me to call her on her birthday. as she know i remember it.. after 25 july she will get busy again with her college studies and hefty classes. will my calling her on her birthday will reassure her about my availibility ? or shall i not wish her and that might become an instance for her when she realize that i am not for granted and she cannot treat me like so ? Plz also suggest how long shall i continue "No Contact" untill i give her a call myself ? i have 6 months in mind.. or shall i call her a week after her birthday ? or a month ? or shall i call on her birthday ? please suggest.. highly depressed Regards guydie Edited May 10, 2011 by guydie
VicJay79 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Guydie, No Contact is tough, expecially when you really care about the person. Honestly, the advice you will get is so case-by-case its hard to figure out who to listen to. Here is my theory. If you like this girl, you should feel free to contact her when ever you want, but you just need to make sure you don't give off the 'I am needy' vibe. When people LEAVE college for the summer, they do find themselves VERY bored and not sure how to deal with this new found time of being alone. Your best bet will be to contact her then when she will have the time to really 'miss you'. I remember during college I was so busy, but when summer vacation rolled around, I had no clue what to do. There was NOTHING! I am 23 and my gf is 20. we have been dating since past 4 years and i am her first bf and the only relation she ever had.. everything was perfectly fine until recently when i started given her alot of importance, gifts and beeing needy.. we started fighting alot and she started lieing to me a occassionaly.. we have been on "No Contact" with her since last one month and in june is her birthday.. she has not contacted me yet or sent any msg. Sometime back we were joking and having fun and i mentioned to her "What if i leave you" and she replied "doed this can ever happen" ? which make me think that she take me for granted i suppose.. shall i wish her on her birthday which is next month even if she does not call me ? kindly remember that i have been on "No Contact" since one month and she dint even call me once or sent any txt.. her birthday is in june.. I would also like to tell that she is in her college and nowadays she hardly have time .. but she will be having her holidays from 20th june till 25 July 2011.. and i am expecting that time she she might feel my absence as she will be having nathing to do in that time.. and i also think that she will definitely be expecting me to call her on her birthday. as she know i remember it.. after 25 july she will get busy again with her college studies and hefty classes. will my calling her on her birthday will reassure her about my availibility ? or shall i not wish her and that might become an instance for her when she realize that i am not for granted and she cannot treat me like so ? Plz also suggest how long shall i continue "No Contact" untill i give her a call myself ? i have 6 months in mind.. or shall i call her a week after her birthday ? or a month ? or shall i call on her birthday ? please suggest.. highly depressed Regards guydie
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