Pastorimore Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Here is the order of events: 1) About 12 years ago (we were both 19 years at the time), I traveled and left my gf but promised I'll come back soon. 2) Due to circumstances (her parents hating me, money issues, etc.) this take place. I felt into a deep depression and seize contact for a long while. 3) I tried reaching her but that's not her # anymore. Neither facebook nor myspace helps out. 4) I came back a couple days ago and was there right at that place I long promised her. I was thinking she would be there since she would go there often but no luck Is there a way I can find her and let her know I'm back. I kept my promise. I know it might be too late but want to get reunited to her again.
Dust Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 If its been 12 years she’s very likely married with children. If you have her name just do a search for her. Things like looking in the phone book, or using a people search database. You might higher a private investigator. Oh and I guarantee this is not how the promise is supposed to go. Are you telling me you haven’t dated since? I sure no she must have.
Author Pastorimore Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 If its been 12 years she’s very likely married with children. If you have her name just do a search for her. Things like looking in the phone book, or using a people search database. You might higher a private investigator.I know and understand by any chance she rejects me but I need to explain her what my situation and what took me so long. Oh and I guarantee this is not how the promise is supposed to go. Are you telling me you haven’t dated since? I sure no she must have.Well I did 4 years ago when my depression was taking a toll on me. Assuming there was no relationship anymore since it's been a very long while since we lost contact, I was meeting other girls. However, I don't love any of them, all I ever thought was her. She still comes up in my dreams many times. Afterwards I stopped dating and went single again. She's my love and will always be.
Author Pastorimore Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 If this doesn't work out in the end, can we at least be friends?
heartcore Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 the chances are that she's already married and which explains why you can't find her when you search for name. well there is the private investigator thing, but if you want to keep it to online browsing here couple of tips. Alot of people are on facebook, but there are still a good amount who just refuse to be part of the social networking sites. (which if she's not there... she doesn't want to be found) but anyway... I'd start with searching for her family and old friends. If you dont remember anybody then I suggest you go to one of those classmate websites. search up her school and you can pretty much browse there and chances are she's still friends with someone from school. Aside from that I really dont know how else I'm gonna find someone who doesn't go by the same name anymore but to hire a professional. Just please dont try anything foolish if you do find that she's in a relationship. Just walk away. It's been 12 years, she's grown to be a completely different woman. She's no longer the girl who used to know. I suggest investing time getting out of depression and finding a new gf instead. Finding her isn't going to get rid of depression. She's not gonna make things better. You have to do that yourself.
creighton0123 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 It's been twelve years. You're both in your 30's. She doesn't need an explanation. It's the harsh truth. She has either moved, got married and changed her name, or is dead. My bets on the middle one. If she has moved on and hypothetically found happiness, isn't it about time that you have as well?
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