dispatch3d Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 pft, your just making dating into a pyramid scheme. Sounds like the start of a very complex and difficult to figure out scam! haha probably not. Most people just want to date someone they are attracted to, and personal issues with themselves come up (which they don't admit to, but instead think of other things that could be wrong with other people, society, the interwebs, you name it, that are causing them not to be happy).
guy777 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Yes, people. You're all invited to join Sanman, Sanskirt and I over at ponzishack.org.
Author Sanman Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Yes, people. You're all invited to join Sanman, Sanskirt and I over at ponzishack.org. And for just $39.95 I'll tell you how to end up on top. Hurry though as this offer only applies to the first 3500 people!!! :p:p
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 While I agree with most of what you say, the attraction is not linear. For example, I was dumped by this guy after 5 weeks of dating. Judging by that, I should have concluded that I need to aim "lower" if I want to find a more lasting relationship. Well, my current boyfriend is better looking, has a better job, more friends, is more socially apt, smarter, more educated, better sense of humor and owns better property than 5-week guy.
curlygirl40 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Guy777, In the end everyone went home alone. Charisma girl probably was annoyed that rocker boy left. You were annoyed that charisma girl didn't really work out. Reserved friend is probably annoyed that cuter more socially desirable charisma girl at least got a guy who likes her. Everyone is unhappy . So funny you should post this thread because I was thinking of some of these same points the other day. I was at the gym. There's a guy there that I see a lot. I'm running on the treadmill and I have my eye on him. Cute, about my age (low 40's) but I don't think out of my league. He's not noticing me because he's busy looking at the young hot tamales that he wouldn't have a chance with. Meanwhile the guy 3 treadmills down is giving me googly eyes. If I met him and got to know him I might be interested, but on looks alone, nope. So there you have it I thought to myself. He's looking at me, I'm looking at the other guy, and he's looking at the young hot girl. We all leave sweaty. But not in the good way. ha!
Disillusioned Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 To address the original post in the thread, dating is the opposite of logic. Ergo, I haven't the least possible use for it. When I put 2 + 2 together, I expect to get 4, not "duh" or applesauce or anything else.
PhillyDude Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I don't see it as clearly as what the OP has written. While women are attracted to independant wealth and education and looks etc. The threads that inspired him don't really represent that. A man living in a home with his parents can be all of that. The assumption that was being made is that a man living with his parents is being supported by his parents. Which is by no means true. Many people have an elderly mother or father or both who can't really take care of themselves. They don't want to put them in a home so they live with them. Why is that such a hard concept for most people to wrap their brains around? I agree with this. When I lived at home after college I was working and saving for an apartment not being supported by my parents.
sanskrit Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 So There's a guy there that I see a lot. I'm running on the treadmill and I have my eye on him. Cute, about my age (low 40's) but I don't think out of my league. He's not noticing me because he's busy looking at the young hot tamales that he wouldn't have a chance with. (Not so) secret about guys at the gym, we are almost never staring directly at the woman we find most attractive so as not to be flagrantly pervo, but just generally at other people in the 45 degree forward vision arc. He might have been "looking at" the hot young girls, but actually subtly checking you out from time to time
Author Sanman Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 I agree with this. When I lived at home after college I was working and saving for an apartment not being supported by my parents. I agree with those points as well. That is why I didn't list 'not living at home' as a desirable characteristic. I think independence vs dependence was highlighted there. Though, a number of people suggested that living on your own was more desirable anyway.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Between the broke, living at home, and good looking v. avg threads it has occurred to me that a good number of people have the same simple issue: I want to date those more desirable than me to the dating public, but they won't give me a chance and if they do they do not treat me well (because I they have many more options to easily replace you) I don't want to date those less desirable than me to the dating public and I wish they would stop bothering me. It is a simple dating pyramid issue. Most everyone prefers to date up than down the desirability scale and there are progressively fewer people as you approach the top. Multi-dating means that the higher up you are on the pyramid the more options you have to date as desirability to the opposite sex involves fairly stable characteristics (looks, wealth, social skills, etc). Thus, you can either look to date as high up as you can go or play with as many as you want below you. If you are at the bottom this really sucks. Congratulations! You win a cookie.
Eeyore79 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Most everyone prefers to date up than down the desirability scale and there are progressively fewer people as you approach the top. I consider myself to be dating up because my bf is wealthier and more successful than me. He considers himself to be dating up because I'm better looking and more intellectual than he is. So it's a win-win situation because we both feel like we're dating up. Who's to say what's "dating up" and "dating down"? While some people are obviously at the top of the dating pyramid and some are at the bottom, in the majority of cases "up" and "down" are a matter of personal preference.
musemaj11 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 (edited) The world of dating is a fight between men who want to have sex with as many women as possible without long term commitment and women who want to attract the wealthiest man she can get and legally bind him to provide for them and their offspring for the rest of his life. The only difference is that the damage done by men is widespread but instant while the damage done by women is pinpoint but lasting a lifetime. Edited May 12, 2011 by musemaj11
fishtaco Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 It is a simple dating pyramid issue. Most everyone prefers to date up than down the desirability scale and there are progressively fewer people as you approach the top. Multi-dating means that the higher up you are on the pyramid the more options you have to date as desirability to the opposite sex involves fairly stable characteristics (looks, wealth, social skills, etc). Thus, you can either look to date as high up as you can go or play with as many as you want below you. If you are at the bottom this really sucks. So work your way up the pyramid. I did. I'm not at the top, and I never will, but I'm above where I was before. And where I am now, I have enough options that I can afford to multidate. Looks, wealth, and social skills are all things that can be worked on. Sure, some of it you're just born with. But you don't need to be at the top of the pyramid. This is not a game where only the king of the hill wins. All you need to be, is somewhere in the middle.
Author Sanman Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 (edited) So work your way up the pyramid. I did. I'm not at the top, and I never will, but I'm above where I was before. And where I am now, I have enough options that I can afford to multidate. Looks, wealth, and social skills are all things that can be worked on. Sure, some of it you're just born with. But you don't need to be at the top of the pyramid. This is not a game where only the king of the hill wins. All you need to be, is somewhere in the middle. Thread is not about me, I do just fine with women. I'm dating 4 women right now. I won't ever be at the top either. It was just an observation. Edited May 12, 2011 by Sanman
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