saucytatertot69 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) It's been 8 months since I was dumped after a 1 1/2 year relationship. I have made progress, but today I caught a quick glimpse of my ex and her guy's prom picture. It felt like a punch in the gut. I can't believe she took him back after hurting her like that. He's a womanizer. He uses girls as he pleases. After seeing the pic, my mind suddenly started going crazy. I started picking at my imperfections as the reason why she dumped me and went to him 3 weeks later after she dumped me. "He's taller, a baseball player, he's in the same grade as her so they can do more senior stuff together..." on and on and on. I never mistreated her once, sure we had fights, but I always made it a big deal that we handle them maturely and talk things out. When we would talk things out I was attentive and never raised my voice. I truly care about this girl and I miss her...or at least the person she used to be. I was dumped for that piece of scum. I feel like I'm the lowest of the low if she left me for that. Edited May 10, 2011 by saucytatertot69 more detail about time
Vitai Slade Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Doesn't sound to me like you are the lowest of the low. Sounds like she's just being foolish. To take someone back that treated her terribly over someone that treated her wonderfully? I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. You know you're better than him. Go out and find someone that deserves the kind of treatment you gave her.
giuliano-3 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Sometimes people choose to be with someone who makes them feel bad. I finally saw a pic of my ex with her new dude after almost a year of not seeing what his face looked like. Then all of a sudden over a hundred pics get posted on facebook and it was like reliving a bad dream. He is also a womanizer type, and the best I can come up with is that she didn't want to feel good about herself. She needs (right now) to be in a relationship where the guy is an a-hole towards her about most things. Comparing yourself to him is dangerous. There is no need, it is about the girl - not you. Trust me on this one.
Author saucytatertot69 Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Thank you you two, your affirmations truly helped me get through today. I finally saw a pic of my ex with her new dude after almost a year of not seeing what his face looked like. Then all of a sudden over a hundred pics get posted on facebook and it was like reliving a bad dream. He is also a womanizer type, and the best I can come up with is that she didn't want to feel good about herself. She needs (right now) to be in a relationship where the guy is an a-hole towards her about most things. Comparing yourself to him is dangerous. There is no need, it is about the girl - not you. Trust me on this one. Does she need to be with an ******* to realize that she can do better? I trust you on this. I miss the person I fell in love with. I feel so forgotten since she got with this guy 3 weeks after dumping me.
Duckduckgoose Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Just know that if she enjoys being treated like **** she wouldn't want a good guy like you.
Author saucytatertot69 Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 That is so true Duckduck, I never thought of it that way, thank you.
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