Xyrodon Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) This topic is supposed to be advice.. called some advice for guys who messed up.. I have some things to tell some guys on this forum. This is ONLY for guys who messed up. I've read a lot of posts here about girls who dump guys for some other dude or whatever, their girl cheated, etc. This isn't for you. So if you messed up BADLY, you yelled at her, broke her heart, you were NOT appreciative, etc. this is for you. By the way, if you messed up by cheating on her or abusing her and you want her back, I think you're an idiot and deserve all the pain in the world for doing something so stupid. So onto my advice, YOU HAVE NO CHANCE. That's it. I have spent almost $400.00 on almost every get back your ex back product. I've studied them, implemented the advice to the finest detail. It doesn't work if YOU screwed up the relationship. Doesn't matter how much you did for her, she'll never come back if you messed up. Most of the books talk about the famous NO CONTACT, then get in shape, bla bla. Well, I'm already in shape, used all their advice, apologized, gave room, etc. DOESN'T WORK. So any product you come across, please don't waste your money. These guys are pro marketers. SAVE YOUR MONEY! I know guys won't take this advice and relentlessly look for an answer. I probably always will too. I miss my ex so much. She was my fiancee, we were engaged and I was with her for over 6 years. I'll always love her. Edited May 10, 2011 by Xyrodon
Strength of Heart Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I have some things to tell some guys on this forum. This is ONLY for guys who messed up. I've read a lot of posts here about girls who dump guys for some other dude or whatever, their girl cheated, etc. This isn't for you. So if you messed up BADLY, you yelled at her, broke her heart, you were NOT appreciative, etc. this is for you. By the way, if you messed up by cheating on her or abusing her and you want her back, I think you're an idiot and deserve all the pain in the world for doing something so stupid. So onto my advice, YOU HAVE NO CHANCE. That's it. I have spent almost $400.00 on almost every get back your ex back product. I've studied them, implemented the advice to the finest detail. It doesn't work if YOU screwed up the relationship. Doesn't matter how much you did for her, she'll never come back if you messed up. Most of the books talk about the famous NO CONTACT, then get in shape, bla bla. Well, I'm already in shape, used all their tactics, apologized, gave room, etc. DOESN'T WORK. So any product you come across, please don't waste your money. These guys are pro marketers. SAVE YOUR MONEY! I know guys won't take this advice and relentlessly look for an answer. I probably always will too. I miss my ex so much. She was my fiancee, we were engaged and I was with her for over 6 years. I'll always love her. Just out of curiosity, what did you do? My ex pretty much said I wasn't appreciative, but later on I realized how contradicting she was because there were times where she certainly could have been more appreciative. I tried as hard as I could to make her happy and turn her life around but to no avail, the girl was always miserable. It emotionally and mentally drained me by the time we hit our halfway mark in the relationship, when she dumped me she tried saying things like that (She left me when she had feelings for another guy).
Fedor Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Man, its different for everyone. In my current relationship, I got my girl back after many trials and tribulations. But its very rocky and I'm willing to fight for it. It doesnt matter what you do sometimes, the person you want may never love you the way you want them too.
Kodo Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 And yet I know one girl who was so in love she stayed with her boyfriend even though he was ignoring her, dumped her twice in a couple on months, didn't take her out, was always working or just preferring to do nothing around the house. He might not even realise he's doing it. Heck she might do it to but blame him for why she does it. Someone outside might say you BOTH do it. It's far too dynamic to make such a general comment.
Strength of Heart Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 And yet I know one girl who was so in love she stayed with her boyfriend even though he was ignoring her, dumped her twice in a couple on months, didn't take her out, was always working or just preferring to do nothing around the house. He might not even realise he's doing it. Heck she might do it to but blame him for why she does it. Someone outside might say you BOTH do it. It's far too dynamic to make such a general comment. It takes two to tango
Author Xyrodon Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 It's not too general, this is the hard truth. There's a lot of guys out there who messed up and never got their one true love back. Mathematically speaking, there's more choices for women too. There's hundreds of thousands of great, successful, good looking guys out there. Sure, you can say there there's lots of girls out there too. Yeah, good looking girls. Big deal. Beauty isn't rare, it's common. A great personality, that's hard to find.
flitzanu Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 just bc nothing worked for you, that means it is universal law? no...not always that simple. and only mentioning "getting in shape" indicates women are superficial and care about muscles? i messed up, and while i cant be with my one true love, she's at least admitted it was what she always wanted. messing up just means they are done waiting on you to grow up or done expecting you to change.
Strength of Heart Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 It's not too general, this is the hard truth. There's a lot of guys out there who messed up and never got their one true love back. Mathematically speaking, there's more choices for women too. There's hundreds of thousands of great, successful, good looking guys out there. Sure, you can say there there's lots of girls out there too. Yeah, good looking girls. Big deal. Beauty isn't rare, it's common. A great personality, that's hard to find. So your ex was perfect and did everything right in the relationship?
Author Xyrodon Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 Of course not, actually the majority of the first few years together relationship she messed up. She openly admits that. But she did come around. The latter part of it she was great. We both made a lot of mistakes overall, I just really ****ed up in the end and that was it. I think fitzanu hit the nail on the head. My ex got tired of waiting...
ComplicatedInCA Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 (edited) Of course not, actually the majority of the first few years together relationship she messed up. She openly admits that. But she did come around. The latter part of it she was great. We both made a lot of mistakes overall, I just really ****ed up in the end and that was it. I think fitzanu hit the nail on the head. My ex got tired of waiting... It sounds to me from the sound of all this, this happened relatively recently? The frustration in your words seems fresh. You are going back and forth between blaming yourself and then blaming her and then back to blaming yourself again. I went through a VERY nasty one recently as well so I know where you are at. I lost someone who I was with for 9 years. She meant the world to me. I think the hardest thing to come to grips with is you will probably NEVER understand it. You are trying to rationalize something that cant be rationalized. My best advice is don't beat yourself up. It ALWAYS takes 2 to make it fail. Don't convince yourself otherwise. Edited May 12, 2011 by ComplicatedInCA
muzik_lvr Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If a woman truly loves a man that she leaves, she will come back eventually. If she doesn't, she won't. I think it simply comes down to that. I don't think there is this universal law that a woman will never come back if a guy messes up in the relationship. Granted, a guy can do something really bad in the relationship and cause damage (possibly permanently). But, a woman who loves a man will be committed to him and be willing to stick with him even when he messes up.
Author Xyrodon Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 I like your post but I truly believe it is a universal law. A lot of things are universal and we have less liberty that we can imagine. We respond to certain actions in a certain way, whether we want to or not. Attraction is one of those laws, if you're attracted to someone, you just are. It's a response for whatever reason. Men are attracted to beautiful women. It's a law. Likewise, when a man screws up in a relationship, love has nothing to do with it. If a woman has had enough, she will leave. Besides, women have choices. There's are literally hundreds of millions of single, financially well off, good looking guys. Why would they come back to someone they "love" when they have better choices? This is reality. Most guys, like myself, don't want to admit this emotionally because we are in love with our ex.
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