laprass245 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 so i know this girl in uni and i really like her. ive met her twice alone and ive well been trying to flirt a little like touch her hand hair n all.. n hold her hand and she doesn't seem to back off nor seem very interested. the thing now is this. after we studied yesterday i walked her home from school. it was quite dark when we were walking through this path. suddenly she grabbed me by the arm. ok i get it. she just felt scared. however, half way through her slippers broke. i offered my hand and she held it. is this considered that i have a chance? or is it that she took it so that she could walk better?. she could just hold my arm right? only when we reach her door did i let go of her hand. is this hand holding considered as an affection that she likes me? im so confused
Eddie Edirol Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Nope, the hand holding doesnt mean anything. It could just be her putting up with you for attention. Youre a puppy dog foliowing her around cuz she knows you like her, so she can keep getting attention from you. She might not be getting attention from a guy that she really likes, so she uses you. Being a puppy dog isnt attractive to anyone. But on the other hand, she might like you. She could be waiting for you to kiss her. You need to start getting close to her face, and gauging her reaction, dont ask her for a kiss, just plant one on her. If she recoils, then she doesnt like you like that, and you need to move on.
Author laprass245 Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 Our faces did get close on a few occasions when I was showing her stuff. Is that an indication?
TheDatingSpecialist Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 The only way you're ever going to find out how she feels is by taking action. Next time you're together, flirt with her more openly -- that means playful teasing, more personal touching, getting closer to her (physically, like sit right next to her), etc. Get that sexual tension stirring and create some chemistry between you. Then after being together for a little (same day), stop talking, look directly into her eyes, pull her in close, and kiss her. You'll know how she feels because she's either going to kiss you back or pull away. You've got to take the chance if you want things to progress further!
carhill Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Her interest in spending time with you and being physically close to you are signs that she likes you. In what way she likes you is unknown at this time. TBH, given my life experiences, I'd have to say, short of full-on sexual intercourse, ambiguity rules the day in this dynamic. I've had women do/say everything, short of exactly that, and not 'like' me in 'that way'. Even some who did (have sex). My take-away is do what you want, what makes you feel good, and care less (this does not mean an absence of care) about what she thinks and how she feels. If she's there in fifty years when you're pounding the bed frame and collapse in a MI from the exertion, I guess you'll know at that moment that you weren't in the friend-zone
Dust Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 You had a chance and you did nothing? Why because you are all in your head an think it’s a good idea to consult with stranger like us instead of acting in the moment. You should have just made a move.
Author laprass245 Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 what shouldi have done? kiss her straightaway?
Author laprass245 Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 yes obiously... but wat can i do now? do i still stand a chance?
Dust Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 what shouldi have done? kiss her straightaway? Did you want to? That’s not for us decide for you. It sounds like you wanted to though. Sounds like when your heads were close together you asked yourself if she wanted to kiss, but were to afraid to try it.
Dust Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 yes obiously... but wat can i do now? do i still stand a chance? Don’t ask us. You already knew what to do but were afraid. Stop being afraid, and be yourself even in the risk of failure. The best athletes lose, and miss, far more times then those of us who never tried. Be yourself, and stop letting fear stop you. (this applies to more then just women)
carhill Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Think of it as an opportunity, a potential. One borne of choice. Make a choice. Ask her out. If she says yes, enjoy that time and express it to her as you feel. If she's on the same page, it will move forward; if not, not. If not, it is a rejection of your feelings and attraction, one of thousands you will experience in your lifetime. If it moves forward, you'll gain other experience and insight and hopefully enjoy the journey.
Author laprass245 Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 hie all.... so i asked her out for a theatre show... she agreed but she kinda popped in 'who else's is going?' is it a BIG sign ive been friend zoned ?????
Author laprass245 Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 anyone?! am i friend zoned already??
sagetalk Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 'Just you and me, baby' Say this, and if she is disappointed or put off then you've been friend zoned. Run for your life.
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