cracker2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Hi all. Im currently in my first LDR.I live in uk and my boyfriend is from uk but living in LA.we actally live only about 10 miles from each other at home!!we have been dating for 4 months,we skype every day at least once and email/txt as least once a day.is this enough contact for an LDR..i amm crazy about him and he says he is cray about me.we are both in our 30's , although i feel like im 16 again:bunny: We have been lucky so far, we have got to see each other every month however that will soon change due work issues. Is it too soon to ask him what he thinks about one of us moving so we can be a proper couple? Thanks for reading x
zebracolors Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 hello welcome aboard! Hope you enjoy time here. But listen LDRs can be mentally and emotionally tricky. Just read many of the threads here. You'll see all ends of the spectrum, LDRs that happily worked, but also many that ended up not working out. Please feel free to post here anytime you want to ask, there are nice poeple here who can give sound advice. That said, if both of you are fine with only once daily contact then its should be okay. But for most the goal would be to go from that to more contact in time. Also I would wait a bit before discussing moving actually at least not seriously. Only 4 months would seem a little soon to make such a huge step. Of course thats ultimately up to you both to decide to do or not do. Wish you and your guy the best and all happiness.
creighton0123 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 To answer your first question: Yes. Skype once a day is enough contact for a long distance relationship. If that is video chat, it's more than enough. To answer your second question: Yes, it may be too soon. Instead of asking whether one should move to the other, discuss future time frame and when the long distance aspect of the relationship may end. Set a goal in the future and then when you're halfway to the goal, start talking about how to make said goal happen.
Author cracker2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Yes it is video skype..i think since janruary there has only been one day when we haved either chatted on phone or skyped. He is over there with work, thinks he will be home in july 2012 but i have a feeling he is not 100% sure.. when we met last he said how wud i feel if he decided to stay in LA, and i said that i wud ask him how would that affect our relationship..and he said that that if we wanted it to work i would have to maybe consider moving.he has a great job..i hate my job so its kinda a given that i wud be the one to move..im not that keen on long distance so i guess im hoping that we either decide to give it 100% chance or not at all..
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