c57dood Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I've been single and without a date for a very long time (6+ years). I'm not an ugly guy and I have hobbies which I escape to so I can pass the time, but lately I've been feeling very strange. Every time I talk to a pretty girl or make a connection with one I soon after wards get this intense feeling of sadness. Like I see these beautiful women and it fills me with grief. I do not have anything against women at all; I love women. The best moments of my life were all involved with old romances with women. Yet I don't know what it is. I can't bring myself to even show interest even if I might be interested at first because I just get this serious internal pain from it. Is this like a defense mechanism for my heart or something? I'm a good young man with a good head on my shoulders but it feels like they've broken my heart already and I don't even know them!
lovelydemon Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I get this way a lot. I think it's because I don't believe in love anymore. It is especially hard to believe in love when you didn't get to experience that feeling in a long time. I was doing online dating for a while (less than a year) and it felt like a huge waste of time and energy because after a while one of us would bail out. So now I think my brain learned the pattern that this is how all relationships work/end and there is no point bothering. So yeah, I look at people thinking that I already know how it's gonna end and I have better things to spend my time on.
guy777 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Felt similar recently and making the decision to try and dig out. Attitude is not a condition, it's a decision. I challenge you to go out, even by yourself Thurs/Fri night. Try a bar/club with a cover band or something jamming, and all the girls will be dancing and just hoping a guy will come dance with them. And just mess around staring chix down, and make them look away first, or wait for them to smile and then smile back. Your choice if you want to have fun doing what I said above, or sit around sulking.
ZebraPants Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I've been single and without a date for a very long time (6+ years). I'm not an ugly guy and I have hobbies which I escape to so I can pass the time, but lately I've been feeling very strange. Every time I talk to a pretty girl or make a connection with one I soon after wards get this intense feeling of sadness. Like I see these beautiful women and it fills me with grief. I do not have anything against women at all; I love women. The best moments of my life were all involved with old romances with women. Yet I don't know what it is. I can't bring myself to even show interest even if I might be interested at first because I just get this serious internal pain from it. Is this like a defense mechanism for my heart or something? I'm a good young man with a good head on my shoulders but it feels like they've broken my heart already and I don't even know them! you get an internal pain? not to be rude but you may want to talk to someone.
ZebraPants Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I've been single and without a date for a very long time (6+ years). I'm not an ugly guy and I have hobbies which I escape to so I can pass the time, but lately I've been feeling very strange. Every time I talk to a pretty girl or make a connection with one I soon after wards get this intense feeling of sadness. Like I see these beautiful women and it fills me with grief. I do not have anything against women at all; I love women. The best moments of my life were all involved with old romances with women. Yet I don't know what it is. I can't bring myself to even show interest even if I might be interested at first because I just get this serious internal pain from it. Is this like a defense mechanism for my heart or something? I'm a good young man with a good head on my shoulders but it feels like they've broken my heart already and I don't even know them! Someone professional I mean
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