NicoleM Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I was all set to go to the movies tonight and he bails on me:mad: He said sorry I won't be able to make it tonight can we go another night? I said okay what about wed and he said that might work and then he comes back and says actually I might have to stay later at work I will let you know and then I said hope to see you sometime this week and he said alright you as well. WTF??
veggirl Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 He is not interested. He is not offering an alternative night--that's your first clue. "Alright, you as well" ?? He knows his schedule, at least what days he is completely off, he WOULD say "I'm so sorry, I can't make it tonight, would X day work for you?" if he was interested
Cee Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I'd delete his number at this point. If he really wants to see you, he'll call or text for a specific date. And then you have his number back in your phone. The good thing about deletion is you aren't tempted to contact him anymore.
Author NicoleM Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 I just do not get why he did this. He seemed so happy the other day and kept saying how he couldn't wait to see the movie and then he bails.
Jynxx Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Whatever you do, don't reply with "whatever" or you might hurt his feelings
TuffCookieX Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I'd delete his number at this point. If he really wants to see you, he'll call or text for a specific date. And then you have his number back in your phone. The good thing about deletion is you aren't tempted to contact him anymore. Rules I have lived by that work every time... however now with my Droid, I delete someone and they still stay in my phone because they are linked through facebook. And I don't want to unfriend them on fb and make it seem so obvious that I am avoiding them. So now in my phone their names become "Don't Talk" so I am not tempted to contact them. They need to initiate it.
Star Gazer Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Whatever you do, don't reply with "whatever" or you might hurt his feelings ....
ZebraPants Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Sorry Hun but I would let this guy go. He isn't interested.
Author NicoleM Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 I am confused though if he wasn't interested why would he say let's reschedule for another day if he wasn't interested??
Feelin Frisky Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I feel your pain. It can be very depressing to have someone get you all excited to do something together and then nothing. I had an F buddy relationship for quite some time some years back and I had to make a rule because I was the one on the losing end of this scenario. I lived in NYC and sold my car when I bought my co-op. My f buddy who lived in Jersey but worked in Manhattan would call me once in a while so she could stop by and have me ravish her. After a few bail outs I had to say that I didn't want her to float any ideas of coming to see me unless she was sure she would be coming.
ZebraPants Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I am confused though if he wasn't interested why would he say let's reschedule for another day if he wasn't interested?? cause he doesn't have the balls to tell you he isn't into you.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I can't tell you how well the number deletion has worked for me. It literally saves me from myself. I am very impulsive and can't control the urge to contact the guy I like. So I delete his contact, his texts and all recent calls - just so there is NO chance for me to contact them. I even do it with my current bf, when I feel like he is contacting me less than I do him. It's also fool proof as if they contact you, you will have their number again. BTW, I also don't think this guy is into you.
Author NicoleM Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 I don't think he is into me either. He just thought of me as a sex object I had to get some closure though or one more tease..... I sent him a picture of me laying out in my bikini and said you snooze you lose......
Eddie Edirol Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I don't think he is into me either. He just thought of me as a sex object I had to get some closure though or one more tease..... I sent him a picture of me laying out in my bikini and said you snooze you lose...... Wow that was a pathetic move. Next time a guy cancels on you, dont give him any more chances. Chances are the guys you like are multidating, and like you said, telling you what you need to hear to get sex from you.
veggirl Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I don't think he is into me either. He just thought of me as a sex object I had to get some closure though or one more tease..... I sent him a picture of me laying out in my bikini and said you snooze you lose...... :eek::lmao: did you really? You know that got forwarded thru his phone...
orion1010 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I was all set to go to the movies tonight and he bails on me:mad: He said sorry I won't be able to make it tonight can we go another night? I said okay what about wed and he said that might work and then he comes back and says actually I might have to stay later at work I will let you know and then I said hope to see you sometime this week and he said alright you as well. WTF?? did he give you a good reason why? was it a family emergency or did he get called into work? maybe he was in a hurry to make plans right away?? If not, I would feel like i was his second choice and something better came up for him.
Author NicoleM Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 :lmao: You know I did! Did he respond??? Nope............
Star Gazer Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I don't think he is into me either. He just thought of me as a sex object I had to get some closure though or one more tease..... I sent him a picture of me laying out in my bikini and said you snooze you lose...... Woah. That was... not a smart move, at all.
Author NicoleM Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 Why? If anything I thought it would show how ticked I am that he bailed on me or how ticked I am how he treated me. It obviously didn't phase him because he didn't text me back or anything
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Everyone here is right. When I'm not interested in communicating with someone and they ask me to hang out I'll reply with "sounds good let me know when you're around" without actually committing to an event or a date. If there is someone I'm interested in I'll come back with very specific days and times of when I can meet them.
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