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So here is my story, which happened over 5 months ago

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t256622/

 

So since this, i have become myself again, living the dream and absolutely loving life with my friends and family...met new girls, a couple dates but nothing serious, just fun.

 

I maintained no contact the entire time witht the ex. she messaged me on my Bday and xmas to which i thanked her and left it. we have not seen each other or spoken verball since the break up. she broke NC by emailing me to ask how everything has been going...i replied coz i was comfortable with it and i had delat and gotten over the pain...

 

Now she has slowly but surely made it apparent that she wants to get together to chat...i have held back as im scared of what i will feel if i see her, but also realize that i will eventually have to see her. i am a chiropractor and she recently got into an accident asd requires chiropractic treament, and told me she was contemplating coming to see me, but thought it would be inappropriate and awkward...problem is that she has only ever let me treat her and no other chiropractor so if i dont treat her, she probably wouldnt go for chiroptractic treatment...

 

do i take her on as a patient? do i leave it...i do love her very much but im kinda lost as to what the best way to go about this is... any advice would be great:)

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I'm just wondering when she broke NC to ask how you're doing, was this around same time she told you she needs chiropractic treatment? My worry is that she's only reaching out to you because of wanting help from you (treatment).

 

In any case, you shouldn't feel like you *have* to see her because she needs a chiropractor. There are others to choose from. If she really needs treatment, she will find means to one way or another. When you say "she probably wouldnt go for chiropractic treatment..." - saying "probably" is making an assumption of what she may or may not do.

 

I also think taking on someone as a patient whom you have had a relationship with would be a little awkward or even uncomfortable. With emotions playing a part and you being unsure how you feel if you saw her, it might blur the lines between professional and personal relationship. So would you be able to handle it? It can get tricky.

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thanks for the reply...she broke NC about 3 months ago!a nd weve emailed back and forth but no talk about our relationship at all... our mutual friend messaged me the other day to say that she thinks its her way of trying to get back into my life and tells her everyday that she doubts whether she made the right decision to break it off..

 

im wondering if it would be better to just tell her to meet up for coffee just to break the ice... i live in fear of scared of bumping into her at any bar or club or even the movies...so nervous as to what my reaction will be when i see her...

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No, no, no, no and no! Stay NC and do not take her as a patient! Besides, that's a conflict of interest!

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