broken-and-lost Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 (edited) Hi guys Some of you may or may not have read a few of my post in the past, i was about 3 weeks into my NC, we have had low contact for about 7 months now, she ended it, with good reason at the time i guess anyway, i was working on myself before we split and have continued to upto this day. Anyway, was my birthday on Sat, friday night i get a text at 12,02am wishing me happy birthday i ignore it not because we are on bad terms but because last time we spoke she said she couldn't stay in contact because she had to try and move on because she just couldn't get past the way i acted when i was suffering with depression at the time for the record i'm long past that....... Anyway i'm out celebrating my birthday and get another text saying i hope your celebrating your birthday and having a great time wink and kiss first time i've had any type of kiss on any coms from her. I responded and just said thanks i'm out and i'm having a part in club. I then get a wow really glad your not stuck at home......... i ignore it Fast forward Sunday, i'm hungover enjoyed my night despite the odd texts, then i get another one saying do you mind if i pop over i bought you a card i meant to post it but few things happened so i didn't get the chance....... I didn't say no as well i still feel 100% in love with her as i know we did have something real but circumstances robbed us of it at the time but also fully aware it's over. She calls around stays for 2 hours get the usual BS talk about she still hurt over how it's turned out and feels sad and wished i'd done all this stuff sooner, i explain i started fixing thing while we were still together in fact a year before you decided to walk, anyway it's your choice and i respect you feel like you can't. Anyway what was the point of the whole weekend introduction, i said to her it's odd you've contacted me a simple happy b-day sometime in the day would have done, and all she said was that i always told you celebrating your birthday was important and i didn't want you to think i'd forgotten about you?? I'm not the mess i thought i would be after seeing her and it didn't wreak my b-day but wondering what people think ? I know people can't know what she was thinging but i'm wondering is it just guilt easing after all this time or is she still in love with me but conflicted and scared and trying to stick with a decision we both know sucks? Edited May 9, 2011 by broken-and-lost
Author broken-and-lost Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 no one have any insight ?? i'm confused by the behaviour thought some ls'er might be able to offer advice
Desensitized Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 my ex-fiancee did the same thing to me on my birthday. She called me on my birthday, but I didn't answer. She then texted me two times on my birthday saying happy birthday and how she hoped I had a fantastic day - I said nothing back to that. Her birthday was two days after mine, but I didn't say happy birthday to her. The day after her birthday, she asks why I didn't say happy birthday on her special day. It just sounds like she's feeding you breadcrumbs to be honest, and once your special day is over, they just disappear like nothing ever happened. Save yourself the pain and just go NC and try to move on - it's really all you can do. You know she still cares about you, and she wants you to know that. Otherwise, she wouldn't have went to your house and gave you the card. She wants you to be hung up over her. Don't take the bait, it will just make things worse. Best of luck.
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