Twisted story

[db2689]

So in august last year, this girl who is on a study trip from abroad spends 2 months living in my family home. Her first time to my country, and we are the same age (28) so I showed her around a bit and we became friends. 2 weeks before she is about to leave, she makes a move on me when I was really drunk (she was sober). That night we just kissed, but I was smashed so was trying to get more, and she made the move on me. I was very regretable the next morning, and tried to confront her, but didnt really get anywhere. That night, i went to the kitchen for water, and she came up and jumped me. And we slept together and had a bit of a romance for the remaining two weeks. Anyway, I was upset when she left, cause I liked her alot, but I had to deal with it, and passed it off as a fling.

 

So anyway, she gets home (on the other side of the world), and gives me a call when she arrives. She was clearly a little upset as well, saying stuff such as I didn't wanna talk to her cause I hadnt registered on skyp, because I mentioned a girl I worked with and that I didnt wanna come and see her. So I thought ok, I like this girl, she likes me, I've known her for a couple of months, either I commit, or back off, so I decided to commit. I offered to go and see her for a month over Christmas (which was two months away). She told me this made her happy and she doesnt just want to spend some time with me next year. So she asked me to talk with her every nigth on Skype, and I did this unless work prevented me. She sent me presents in the mail, and I sent her flowers on one occasion when she was upset about something. Things seemed to be ok.

 

So about a month into the "skyping", I booked all my flights and hotels. Since her university was on break, we travelled around to 3 or 4 different countries. I paid for everything and her family put us up for a week over christmas. After I booked everything, I noticed her interest level slightly decrease. She started talking about other guys hitting on her, and making disspariging remarks about men in general. She went from demanding we talk every night, to not caring as much. Infact the week before I was due to leave, we didn't really talk much, but this was something to do with her computer breaking. I was a little bit worried, like something had changed and i was already locked in.

 

During this week before I went over, she mentioned a club she went to untill 6am the night before. I have to admit I was a little suspicious, so I looked this place up, and there were actually photos from that night. In the photos, she was quite close to some young guy, not just in one but around 6 or 7. There was nothing definitive, but my gut instinct told me otherwise. On facebook the next day, they befriended, and I also noticed the clubs closing hours were 4am and not 6am.

 

Anyway, I got over there, and the mood was definately different to what it had been 2 months earlier, but I hadn't done anything to annoy her and I had always been 100% honest and faithful. The conversation, laughs and sex were no where near as good. But somehow we managed to put up with it for a month. It was definately her that had emotionaly ended it, not me. But heres the smart bit, she didn't break-up with me, she just kind of kept asking me what was wrong and why I don't speak. And it was me who had to actually sit her down and say look, I don't think this is going anywhere. She cried, and we still staid together for a week after this, even though she asked me if i wanted to go home.

 

I was angry inside, but i hid it pretty well. I knew she had lied and cheated on me before I came over, so i hacked into all her amails, facebook and skype when i got back home. I was correct, she cheated on me a week b4 i got there with that young dude. She was setting up dates with other huys for after I left. She was telling her friends that she didn't think it was gonna work out with me but what the heck. But why then was it her that led me on???? This really pissed me off, it was like id just blown all this money and time and got completely played and lied to. I also found out she had her heart broken a week b4 she came to my country. She told me about all her previous boyrfriends, but failed to mention she was on the rebound.

 

So its been 4 months since I came home. We talked for a month after I got back, before I told her i knew she cheated on me before I went over. Then she made out that I was the bad guy, cause i called her a slut. I continued to rip into her a bit, then went silent. So anyway, i didnt tell her i hacked her accounts to find out what the hell really went on. I told her if she wanted to be honest with me she could, but she obviously didnt. Anyway, I was pissed....really pissed mainly cause i took a month of work, spent 8k and was stone-faced lied to. I had no guilt for anything i was about to do. So basically I downloaded all her info. I have it as back-up. 2 days ago, she posts on her facebook..."My name, you can stop haking into my profile, if you wanna know something ask me". I just told her hey look i already know everything.

 

So I know i did something which some people may say is wrong, but man, I needed to know the whole story, and the honest truth is i dont feel bad or guilty about it. If it was some girl across the street, i dont think id care, but this cost me money and ****. what do you think........oh yeah and the funny thing is after this terrible trip, she actually sent me a birthday present to my work like 3 weeks later. I honestly don't know what she was playing at, continuing to tell me one thing and all her friends something else. The other thing is I'm not her "normal type of guy" as she puts it cause I'm not incredibly tall and no oil painting, but I do have money so maybe that's what attracted her to me i dunno...

[Desensitized]

Hacking may not have been the right thing to do, but you did deserve to know. I hate cheaters, they disgust me. Move on and never look back, that's all you can really do.

 

Good luck with everything.