rcwood84 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 having problems finding thorough answers that are useful. friends advice hasnt been too helpful. need dettached opinions my ex and i were together in 2008 and 2009.had an intense connection. broke up becuz we were holding back & afraid 2 get hurt. never officially broke up though & left things hanging.my dad was battling cancer 2 and i was taking care of him. that affected me a lot. i found out now my ex has returned 2 college 2 major in the career i am in through seeing her on campus from afar & seeing her in the college paper. my ex spent a lot of time at another college studying something else. also,my ex has taken up my hobbie of rock climbing recently, which i introduced her 2, & staff at my climbing gym randomly told me recently that they see my ex in there a lot since december. mutual friends also say my ex has been oddly listening to a lot of my same music when she has not liked it before. she broke up with the person she began seeing after me in the last couple months & have seemingly started this new life. it sounds like i have influence over it but im not certain. some say it could be coincidences but some have other interpretations, what am i to make of all this behvior from my ex? please help shed light? also, i had texted me ex in december after seeing her from afar on campus. we chatted. said i missed rock climbing w/ her. she asked how ive been and i said my dad died a couple weeks ago. she did not respond. some say she was probly shocked and didnt know what to say. i was hurt. how do i interpret this? she was the most beautiful girl i have ever met, inside and outside. i have never had such an intense connection with somebody. i never just sat for several hours glued to someone's lips like that. i have never been able to talk to someone about nothing for hours and be that content. we both got scared and pushed eachother away. that was the death of us. my dad dying taught me a lot. im ready to let love in now w/o fear. i saw her on campus and thought: i wish i could be close to her again and tell her everything i couldnt before. i want w try & talk 2 my ex since ive been through a lot & matured a lot & resolve what we left hanging.deep down,id like to be back together. i loved her so much & never her them & feel like i want 2 tell her everything i couldnt than & shed some light on why i acted the way i did. semester is over. wont see her till fall but dont want 2 wait..how should i go about this? email? text? talking on the phone is very difficult for me right now. i can give more details if needed. i really just want to contact her as soon as i can to gain some sort of peace of mind,
kandice Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Well, I guess sine the phone call is out...maybe you could write her a nice email in letter format. Or better yet, write her a letter. Of course, I'm telling you what I would like a guy to do if he liked me. I think if you're going to tell her something intimate, do it through an intimate medium. Texts are too impersonal. And, if you do write her, make sure you're grammar is good. I know you were probably rushing when you wrote this post, but if you send her something that's written like this post, it won't seem like you put much effort into it. Oh, and telling her about your dad (may he rest in peace) was probably a big bomb to drop on her. She probably didn't know what to say that would show enough respect or be helpful to you. You shouldn't take it personally. Either way, I think you should try to talk to her. Don't get too serious at first. Let her get to know you again and vice versa.
Author rcwood84 Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 lol. yeah i was trying to shorten what i had to say and that might have came off as bad grammar. so girls do like letters? im just afraid if i say the wrong things or say too much...she will be scared off..some people have said that..other people say that i should open up my heart to her in the letter. im just pretty nervous i guess.
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