ladeedee Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Okay. I knew this was coming. I knew it ever since we broke up! I talked to him about 10 minutes last Tuesday. I posted about it on here. He was flirting the whole time and I was not into it in the least bit. He kept telling me all about the good things he was doing and what he was up to and him him him. I left him with a "wanting more" kind of thing. So. Last night I get a text at 1:30 in the morning. He pretty much said I hope I don't wake you up and "I really need to talk to you. Tell me when and where preferably after finals." His friends are all nice to me. His one friend wrote me up out of the blue over FB and has been forcing convo with me for the past week. I saw my ex this past Friday and I did a very nice wave from across the street. It was mutual. I hoped to God that would be it. I thought that would be the perfect ending to my semester with him. I was happy with that. I'm afraid of what he wants to say. I'm so happy without him. He might want closure. He might want to get back together. He might tell me something he did to me during our relationship. He thinks I'm staying here this summer still at college. I'm going home Friday. :/ Help?
Jono85 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 you said you are happy without him, so does that mean you do NOT want to get back with him? i'm not sure i figured out from your post what your intentions are. also i'm new here and haven't followed your back story, so i'm not sure how things ended, i just wanted to caution you that getting a text at 1:30 am on a saturday night could mean he had been drinking/drunk. just be careful here, don't want any setbacks.
Author ladeedee Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 Yes and I realized that too.. but he works on Saturday's so I'm pretty sure he was sober. Also yes, I do NOT want to get back with him, but I'm afraid of those setbacks that may happen... I don't want to get hurt. I still don't know if I should write back or not. I'm going to wait til tomorrow afternoon... :/
Jono85 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Yes and I realized that too.. but he works on Saturday's so I'm pretty sure he was sober. Also yes, I do NOT want to get back with him, but I'm afraid of those setbacks that may happen... I don't want to get hurt. I still don't know if I should write back or not. I'm going to wait til tomorrow afternoon... :/ then i think, personally, you shouldn't write back. or maybe tell him something like well you can write it down, and send me an email or something. but honestly it doesn't sound to ME, that you know what you want, or at least you may not be fully committed to it. if you're that vulnerable to something he may say to you, i don't think you should be talking to him (like you did last week for 10 minutes). tell him you'd appreciate it if he didn't initiate contact for a few months at least, maybe even the whole summer. i think you could probably use some space from him given your state. i could be off here, but it sounds like there's still something inside you that is hoping he tells you everything you want to here and you accept him back. otherwise you wouldn't have wrote a thread on here worrying about this. you'd simply ignore it, and KNOW how you'd handle the situation and move on. but there seems to be a tiny door still open. i apologize if i'm totally off base, just some food for thought.
Author ladeedee Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 I'm just scared... I wanted to go the whole summer, yes. You are very right on that. I'm tired of the back and forth that he always has started with me! We dated twice and he did this before also. When we were together and I was about to leave for vacation, he'd pick a fight with me before I left so that I would come over and see him. He is very manipulative. I'm just kind of scared for myself. I don't want to get back with him. I just needed a little support on here.. I've only told two people because I feel like if I tell more of my friends, I will get more stressed out and I don't want that. It's finals week. There is however a tiny door where I WANT him to just grovel and feel bad, but it's only because I want that gratification. I'm still healing. He hurt me pretty bad over the past few years. I did a lot for him and he just never gave it back. He was emotionally abusive. He always knew how to hurt me most and I just want to break free. But I think I will just leave it be. Knowing him, he will probably try again before the week is done. I just want to be left alone.
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