Hlep Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Hey everybody, I very recently started dating this wonderful girl. First date last night as a matter of fact. It was probably the best date I've ever been on in my entire life. She's beautiful, educated, witty, and has every quality I could ever dream of in a perfect match. I feel butterflies thinking about her as I write this. My problem is that I wasn't completely honest when she asked me about my family life. I had an older brother that died a couple years ago from a drug overdose, and had been living in a homesless shelter. Just the most horrible story in the world- and I just didn't know how to answer that simple question. I told her I was an only child instead. This girl is everything a guy could ever want. Now I feel kind of crumy because I feel like I wasn't entirely honest. I feel like I could tell her about it, but I just didn't want to go there on the first date. The crazy thing is she said it didn't seem like I have the traits of an only child, hah! She read me so well. I'm so in to her. Any advice? Thanks guys!
russian2 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 It was only a first date. if you guys stay together make sure to tell her the truth within a month or two. She will understand, and if she doesn't, then she isnt worth it.
TheyCallMeBruce Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Honestly, I think that this is something that you tell her when you're comfortable, and she'll understand. That's not first date talk. I wouldn't worry about it.
vsmini Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 She didn't read you so well. I'm an only child and I get that all the time "oh, you don't have the characteristics of one" Because people always assume only children are selfish, spoiled A-holes. I think what you said was perfectly understandable. Yes you did technically lie but it's a painful memory no doubt and it might have been way too heavy of conversation for a first date. Next time you go out just say "hey, look - about what you asked me on family...." and let her know you're sorry and you didn't know how to handle the topic. It would only be weird if you let multiple dates go by with out correcting your mistake. This wouldn't be a deal breaker for me at all if the guy came clean quickly. Good luck.
TheyCallMeBruce Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I don't think you need to tell her the next time you go out. Honestly, that's a tough thing to talk about. Tell her when you're ready, and unless she's a total monster, she'll understand.
Author Hlep Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 Advise from all is much appreciated. I think I'm going to mention it if after the 3rd date if things continue to progress, and just not go into details. Also what is the standard waiting time after the first date for a telephone call or text? I gave her the standard it was a wonderful date text. Should I call her up tommorow maybe? I probably need to use the search feature haha!
Art_Critic Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Mention it on down the road .... If you say something now it will look like you are too full of drama and she'll disappear Wait until you are both feeling very comfortable with each other so you Don't push her away
strlixx Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 the same thing happened to my cousin wit his girlfriend an' she finally just opened up and told him. it made their bond strongers
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