My Ex Texts My Mother Again :S Maybe It Really Is Nothing . . . What do you think?

[TooMuchPride]

my ex and i broke up roughly 2 months ago...we havent spoken since...he texted my mother on easter and now again today on mothers day...she told me the last text was simple all he said was "i hope you have a good easter mom" n she responded "ty" because she didnt know what else to say , i was pretty peeved he texted and even more that she actually responded i told her please ignore him and she said ok...today the text was more personable..he called her mom again and said he would keep in touch with her and talk to her soon he also said coming from "his name" to me i figured maybe he was surprised she answered b4 n was making sure she knew who it was this time by adding his name...my mother doesnt like him at all...especially after what he has done to me...they were never close but i must say he was always polite to her...but still find it strange he is contacting her an seemingly trying to make a relationship with her...why would he be texting his exes mom?...after getting to know him i realize the mom thing may be part of his game.... post breakup i realized he was a really big manipulator he always was so concerned about my mom from the first day we met..it seemed weird to me like a front but i see he may have thought getting my mom to like him would help..but my mother saw through it...i thought about it for a while i thought maybe he jus decided to continue being polite...but to me thats odd...i havent kept in contact with any1 close to him...its not like they spoke i mean one of my exes r pretty close to my mother..she talks to him quite a bit infact she called him yesterday to talk to him about college...it use to bug me but now i think its cute...but i know my mother will never like this guy...i then went on to thinking maybe he texts this to all his "girls" n "exes" i mean he didnt say her name he just said mom he could have sent the same thing to many girls mothers...and at this point i wouldnt put it past him...i really dont know why he is maintaining contact with my mother...and she did not respond this time and plans not too for future texts...i just wanted any input...guys why would u continue texting ur exes mother?...could it actually be group texts to all the mothers in his phone?...why would he say he is going to keep in touch if they dont speak and i despise him? am i over thinking these texts? could ti be nothing?i almost feel like hew knows how much this would bug me..or has any girl been in this situation? any input is appreciated. thanks

[PelicanPete]

Maybe he feels he owes your mom something. I know when my ex and I broke up, I was tempted to contact her mom because she did a lot for me while we were together and I didn't want to look like i didn't appreciate anything. I was a bit concerned about her because I knew she was already having a rough time, she talked to me a lot about her problems and she was very happy that her daughter was dating me.

 

Otherwise, he may just not want to look like a jerk to her depending on how you broke up or who broke up with who. He could be trying to get in good with your mom like you said so she will go "why would you guys break up?"

 

He also may just be trying to get you to contact him first.. If your mom isn't going to respond anymore just keep NC and just ignore it.

[TooMuchPride]

well my mom never liked him so she never did anything for him and she is happy we are broken up but he could be unaware she dislikes him and didnt want me with him so it may be either of the latter , thankyou though

[loverboy1984]

is it bad to wish a simple happy mothers day to an exes mom? Ive been in NC for 2 months now. I havent talked to her family in a while but they know im a gentleman and I wanted to show a good jesture without looking bad. what do you guys think?

[TooMuchPride]

is it bad to wish a simple happy mothers day to an exes mom? Ive been in NC for 2 months now. I havent talked to her family in a while but they know im a gentleman and I wanted to show a good jesture without looking bad. what do you guys think?

 

 

 

well our situations may be different...this guy was a real piece of work...really TRIED to hurt me...he n my mother werent close but you are right it could be a simple gesture...but lets be honest

 

you have been nc for 2 months now..and u r on ls...u r in pain correct?...if u are texting ur exes family members what are your REAL intentions? are you hoping to get her back? or are u trying to say you geniunly r texting ur exes family members with no interest in them telling her or her finding out

 

 

and i think its disrespect for him to be calling my mother mom after all he did and has yet to apologize for...i am also 2 months nc i can say if he messages me or apologised at this point i probably wouldnt respond but i would appreciate the apology because he knows what he did...the fact that him n i are nc but he is contacting my mother is baffling to me...especially calling her mom after all of this

 

 

but since this is an open forum open with if u were to or have texted ur exes mother what were u REAL intentions...even if u just wanted to be nice u had no hidden agenda?

[loverboy1984]

thanks for your reply...

 

I think the best thing to do is nothing. NC continues

 

good luck with your situation

[0hpenelope]

Your ex doesn't have a concept of boundaries, does he?

 

My ex's mom and my mom share the same birthday. I didn't greet her, though I did send a good thought that I hoped she had a good day.

 

I think it's enough to acknowledge it without having to send a greeting. It's just inappropriate, considering that your mom doesn't like him at all.

[RareBreed]

nice to see someone started a thread about this...

 

im in an almost similar situation. My ex left me for another guy, and ive been in 2 weeks no contact and ive ignored one "hope you're doing well text"... and today she texts my mom "happy mothers day :)". W T F?

 

Granted i was thinking of doing the same to her mom because I've always been extremely nice to her family but what the hell.. shes not supposed to do that.

 

 

So yeah i think this is a weird thing... He probably wants a reaction out of you.

 

Ignore it. & dont read into it at all.

[TooMuchPride]

im tryingggggggggg HARD lol