Uno Posted April 10, 2004 Posted April 10, 2004 allright there is this girl in my class that i like and kind of told her that i loved her(when i was drunk). well she didnt say anything at the time except saying that im cute. i think she didnt continue cause she realized i was drunk so i told her we'll talk the day after well the day after she told me that she had a boyfriend(i knew about him ages b4), and she cant think of me more than friends(she said this including many compliments 2 me if that'll help) well she liked me a lot (more than friends) and i guess she still does, the thing is her bf isnt here he's in another country and she sees him once in 2-3 months. she also has a friend who knows her bf(her closest friend) so i guess that was what stopped her from dating me. anyway i think thee way i asked her out was the biggest mistake(i didnt even ask her out and i wasnt even in love with her and actually i dont think im yet but still like her a lot and wanna date her so do u think i should try?? i mean do i have a chance? DO U THINK I HAVE A CHANCE? (dont lecture me about how bad it's 2 ask a girl out when u know that she has a bf)
Believer69 Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 no, that is just rude! Find someone else, and if she does like you, that will jump start her.
ace876 Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 Let's use our brains a little here. Suppose, she goes out with you. That means that she's cheating or leaving her BF for you. And, that would mean that she would be the type to do that sort of thing, again. So, even if she goes out with you, all that means is she's just as likely to cheat on you, as she did with her previous BF. Genius. -Ace
SoleMate Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 What kind of boyfriend is this? Are they married? No, I didn't think so. Hey gang, please tell me why a teenager who has a "boyfriend" in another country should be considered off limits as if she were a vestal virgin. Am I the only human being on planet earth who would like to see the youngsters have a chance to get to know a few people of the opposite sex before they are tied down forever? We already have marriage for adults - let's not get the 16 year olds thinking they have to replicate the serial exclusivity habits of their 30- and 40-something parents, complete with messy teen "divorces"... Sheesh.
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 If her and her boyfriend are in an exclusive relationship by their own will, I don't think it's considerate to ask her out. If they're in that kind of relationship where they are free to see other people, then by all means feel free to ask. What I don't understand is what makes you think this girl likes you when she told you she couldn't think of you more as a friend? Did she verbally tell you that she likes you more than a friend? If she didn't, don't read into her kindness for you as a sign of romantic interest.
Fritz Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 Originally posted by SoleMate What kind of boyfriend is this? Are they married? No, I didn't think so. Hey gang, please tell me why a teenager who has a "boyfriend" in another country should be considered off limits as if she were a vestal virgin. Am I the only human being on planet earth who would like to see the youngsters have a chance to get to know a few people of the opposite sex before they are tied down forever? We already have marriage for adults - let's not get the 16 year olds thinking they have to replicate the serial exclusivity habits of their 30- and 40-something parents, complete with messy teen "divorces"... Sheesh. Oh I agree to a point but by her saying she had a boyfriend.. that kinda hints that its serious or exclusive. Uno: anyway i think thee way i asked her out was the biggest mistake(i didnt even ask her out and i wasnt even in love with her and actually i dont think im yet but still like her a lot and wanna date her so do u think i should try?? i mean do i have a chance? A chance? Maybe. Why bother though. She already said she thinks of you as a friend right?
MarKus Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 dont do it fella.....saying if you were that guy and someone stole your girl off you.....it aint a nice feeling...dont do it
Author Uno Posted April 11, 2004 Author Posted April 11, 2004 ace876: [color=red] even if she goes out with you, all that means is she's just as likely to cheat on you, as she did with her previous BF.[/color] well i know she would never cheat on me cause if she didnt say yes at the first time 2 me that means she aint a cheater and considering that she likes me. i know this girl very well and she will never cheat. i'll make her leave him b4 dating seriously... and by the way i think this might be the reason why she said no. she must have thought about this cheating thing, or her friend told her. Believer69: [color=red]Find someone else, and if she does like you, that will jump start her.[/color] allright. u mean i should find somebody else and wait 4 her 2 jump. naah it'l just take more time and that means breaking a heart and maybe it wont work and she'll just grab her bf more. SoleMate: [color=red]let's not get the 16 year olds thinking....[/color] im nt 16 man ThisGirlNameKD: [color=red]what makes you think this girl likes you when she told you she couldn't think of you more as a friend?[/color] well. cause u can easily tell from the way people act around u if they like u more than friends or nt, from they look and the way they talk 2 u. and she talks about me a lot when im not around saying im cute and that im cool etc. i heard that from 3 friends. Fritz: [color=red]Why bother though. She already said she thinks of you as a friend right?[/color] i dont want 2 miss her. she might like me more than her bf. but what makes me think twice or more b4 deciding 2 take her from her bf is what if i got fed up from her in a short time and left her. then she'd have lost her bf for me, and then that would be bad for her. that's why im asking actually. damn man i've 2 decide. but i'll take 1 more week 2 think about it. well any other opinions?
Author Uno Posted April 11, 2004 Author Posted April 11, 2004 MarKus: [color=red]dont do it fella.....saying if you were that guy and someone stole your girl off you.....it aint a nice feeling...[/color] yeah man. i know but again if u really like someone u shouldnt think that way and miss an opportunity. i think u've 2 try. maybe she'll be the one! ha? who knows
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 To Uno: Just because she finds you attractive does not mean she wants to be with you. Lots of people are in relationships with other people and they find people outside of that relationship attractive. That doesn't necessarily mean they want to get with them. If this girl had not personally told YOU (forget what she told the friends...because if she's serious she would tell come and tell you personally) that she wants to be with you, then you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. NO it is not easy to read by a person's body language that a person has a romantic interest. She could be flirting with you because she finds you cute, but that doesn't mean she wants to get with you. I think you maybe seeing more into this than it is. I think you're seeing what you want to see.
Author Uno Posted April 11, 2004 Author Posted April 11, 2004 to ThisGirlNameKD what u said kind of makes sense. i'll think about it thnx
reasontosigh Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 SoleMate: let's not get the 16 year olds thinking.... im nt 16 man Must be those boyish good looks of yours! Don't take it the wrong way. My brother has the same "problem". Also wanted to let you know...SoleMate is female.
Author Uno Posted April 11, 2004 Author Posted April 11, 2004 to ThisGirlNameKD why wouldnt u want 2 be with somebody if u think he/she is attractive????
Author Uno Posted April 11, 2004 Author Posted April 11, 2004 reasontosigh: Must be those boyish good looks of yours! uhh i look 2-3 years younger everybody keeps saying that. sometimes i get desperate about it as well reasontosigh: SoleMate is female. sorry sloemate.
reasontosigh Posted April 11, 2004 Posted April 11, 2004 i look 2-3 years younger everybody keeps saying that. sometimes i get desperate about it as well I understand. Our whole family is actually like that. It works to your advantage the older you get - it's a small comfort at the moment, I do realize. I'm now in my mid 40s and most people figure me for around 10 years younger, so I can now see the light at the other end of the tunnel!
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 To Uno: Why wouldn't you want to be with someone that you find attractive? Because you may already be with someone else. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you don't find other people attractive. I'm married and I find other men attractive, and I also know men that if given the opportunity I know I could have a great relationship with them. But I chose to be committed to my husband despite who I find attractive. There's no one and only when it comes to love contrary to what many think. There are plenty of people you could have a good relationship with, but it you make a choice to be with just one person, then no one else really matters at that point.
Believer69 Posted April 12, 2004 Posted April 12, 2004 Believer69: Find someone else, and if she does like you, that will jump start her. allright. u mean i should find somebody else and wait 4 her 2 jump. naah it'l just take more time and that means breaking a heart and maybe it wont work and she'll just grab her bf more. --------------- Sorry Uno, probably bad advise, but one I seem to give often. Its my way to tell someone to get on with their life, and find someone else that has the same feelings for you as you do for them...and by thinking that it may be a way to make the "other women" jealous seems to work...and when they do come crawling back, you will be so blisfully happy with your new mate, you want even notice them., and if they dont, you wont care. Just another chapter in your life. Basically, move on.
Author Uno Posted April 12, 2004 Author Posted April 12, 2004 to ThisGirlNameKD: i got your point. u'r right. actually that might be why she doesnt want this relationship. well i guess i'll just leave this girl alone. s*** it's gonna take sometime 2 think about it and decide what 2 do, but thnx 4 your help. still something inside me tells me that i can get this girl and i truely believe this voice but i dont think i'll go 4 it cause i dont feel as strong as i used 2 feel towards her. dont know why!!!! uhh this is complicated. need some sleep. thnx
Author Uno Posted April 12, 2004 Author Posted April 12, 2004 maybe u'r right believer. well i did that once and the girl came crowling back but i did notice and left the new one and went on with the one who came back. and what i thought after was(well what we both thought was) "what a waste of time" cause it took 4 months till she came back. but i think i'll move on, not to make her jealous but 2 forget her. i really like this girl and dont want to hurt her, but we'll see how it goes
viciouscancer Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 hey, im in the same sistuation as u r. im the new person trying to get with this girl who has a boyfriend now. i was suppose to be with her 2 years ago but i moved away for a year, and now i came back and i want her. she said she would be with me if she didnt have a boyfriend. i made her admitt i was better looking than him and i have a nicer body. but now i think i might of ****ed it up because i think i tempt her too much to break up with her boyfriend.i know she wants to be with me, but it is a risk for her of getting burned if i be with her and dump her. but i really dont want to do this to her. i really want to love her. i guess she is just scared. oh well. i think things will probably tuen around soon though. viciouscancer
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