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Hi,

 

Please help me to catch this girl's attention!

I am an extremely good looking man who has some self image problems. I am a bit of a nerd and am awkward with women. I am extremely well educated, nice and loving. I am not a stalker and have been in several very healthy relationships.

Please have a look at this girl

 

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/blahblahlucy

 

I have never met her and am ready to contact her with a first email. This is what I wrote to her:

Hey,

 

My name is Guy.

I try my darndest to find cool people that I also match up with on this site. I set all kinds of filters and look around. It becomes tiring, and then I just give up and turn the site off for weeks.

Okay,
so
, I am using this quickmatch thing, which I never use, and suddenly up pops this very cute, very cool looking girl....

I love music, movies and driving in the country. I know that synthesizers sound almost as amazing as distorted guitars when they are cranked up
so
high that you feel it in your bellybutton.

I hope to hear from you. Tell me about what you are going to study ... and where'd you get that icecream (it looks like the county fair).

 

Guy

 

Please help with some suggestions.

:o

Posted

Looks like that girl may live in my area:laugh:

 

Okay, so IMO that message is way too long. Id just approach her with something simple and not too overwhelming. Her profile isn't overly serious, so id stick with a short but good message. Ask her about one of her interests listed on her profile.

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Posted

Thanks Rinnix

Posted

No problem! She says she likes tattoos, why not ask her what she has? Also ask her what she is studying.

 

This part shouldn't really be added. It just doesn't come off as confident.

 

"I try my darndest to find cool people that I also match up with on this site. I set all kinds of filters and look around. It becomes tiring, and then I just give up and turn the site off for weeks.

Okay, so, I am using this quickmatch thing, which I never use, and suddenly up pops this very cute, very cool looking girl...."

 

Also just stick within her interests before giving her too much about yourself. Perhaps share what you studied. (Or if you have a tattoo too.)

 

But short and sweet goes a long way, and is less awkward.

Don't mention the icecream. :p

Posted
No problem! She says she likes tattoos, why not ask her what she has? Also ask her what she is studying.

 

This part shouldn't really be added. It just doesn't come off as confident.

 

 

 

Also just stick within her interests before giving her too much about yourself. Perhaps share what you studied. (Or if you have a tattoo too.)

 

But short and sweet goes a long way, and is less awkward.

Don't mention the icecream. :p

 

+1. The beginning about you tiring of it and sometimes turning it off, etc. should be dropped out, especially

 

Best of luck

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Thanks again. I want to send the following message. What do you think?

Hi,

 

My name is Guy.

I hope your spring has been fun. Mad Men is awesome, but I haven't heard about the other shows. Kristin Bell was good in Sarah Marshal, what is her new show about?

What are you going to be studying?

Have a fun Sunday,

 

Guy

Posted
Thanks again. I want to send the following message. What do you think?

Hi,

 

My name is Guy.

I hope your spring has been fun. Mad Men is awesome, but I haven't heard about the other shows. Kristin Bell was good in Sarah Marshal, what is her new show about?

What are you going to be studying?

Have a fun Sunday,

 

Guy

 

 

Much better then before!

 

How about just saying how you also watch Mad men. (instead of saying you don't know the others)

 

As for the hope your spring has been fun, that can be left out, or at the very end. :)

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Posted

Ok, well, its done. Thanks to you both.

 

Guy

Posted

Try it this way...

 

Hey,

 

My name is Guy.

I try my darndest to find cool people that I also match up with on this site. I set all kinds of filters and look around. It becomes tiring, and then I just give up and turn the site off for weeks.

Okay,
so
, I am using this quickmatch thing, which I never use, and suddenly up pops this very cute, very cool looking girl....

I love music, movies and driving in the country. I know that synthesizers sound almost as amazing as distorted guitars when they are cranked up
so
high that you feel it in your bellybutton.

I hope to hear from you. Tell me about what you are going to study ... and
where'd you get that icecream (it looks like the county fair).

 

Guy

 

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