Kristie16 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I've realized that on days when I feel overwhelmed or sad that I tend to think about him more and really want to reach out. It's been five weeks since he broke up with me and I've been doing no contact. Today I'm stressed with a lot of work and questions about my future. (the job I'm at right now ends in a month and there's a lot of questions about what I'll be doing/where I'll be in a few months.) I soooo badly want to contact him just because it's comfort and calming. But I also know I'd be upset with myself for doing that. I just need some encouragement. How do others deal with stress and uncertainty without reaching out to exes?
geegirl Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I've realized that on days when I feel overwhelmed or sad that I tend to think about him more and really want to reach out. It's been five weeks since he broke up with me and I've been doing no contact. Today I'm stressed with a lot of work and questions about my future. (the job I'm at right now ends in a month and there's a lot of questions about what I'll be doing/where I'll be in a few months.) I soooo badly want to contact him just because it's comfort and calming. But I also know I'd be upset with myself for doing that. I just need some encouragement. How do others deal with stress and uncertainty without reaching out to exes? It's normal to feel this way. He was someone you leaned on while in the relationship. It's comforting and calming to seek their consolation and advice but it's only temporary. Then you get emotional again because you realize you won't and can't have it all. It's fleeting and short lived. Reach out to your friends, family, post here...most times you will get most of the same support and advice from friends and family. I had a job issue once after the break up. He was always my rock and always gave me great advice. I wanted to badly to reach out. I did. He gave me the advice and I felt great. Then I felt empty again because I realized that I could not have it all with him. Just that little piece. A tease almost. It was painful to accept the fact that I could not have my "rock" full time.
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