Sweet_T Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I am officially loosing it! I miss him so much, it is physically making me sick. Ive tried to contact him, but he isn't accepting any of my calls! Why is this happening?!?!?! I feel like **** and it's killing me
Bluebelle38 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 First of all, you are breathing but you may be losing it, temporarily. I don't know the circumstances of your split, but I do know that harrassing him is pushing him further away. If he didn't answer the first call, he is not going to answer the seventh all bright and breezy. Can you get a friend to come around? You need to stop contacting him, hon. The more he ignores you the worse you will feel. You will get through this in time, but for now, cut the contact and get your head sorted.
Author Sweet_T Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 I know, and I feel awful. Trust me. I know that Im pushing him away by calling him so much, and I know he isn't gonna answer but I can't help it! I feel like I've crossed the love line and now Im obsessed! I don't drive by his house or anything, but I can't stop calling him! It's like I just want to talk...about what?!?!?! Idk...I miss him and believe it or not, Im at work right now and the anxiety is KILLING ME!
Bluebelle38 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Take a step back. How does this make you look? Desperate/needy/out of control? You really have to look at the bigger picture. Go radio silence and get on with your life for now. Stay busy and let him miss you as the person he loved, not some obsessed ex. I don't know if he will come back.... but he won't while you are harrassing him. Most of us have been where you are, you just have to exercise some self control. it's tough but you have to do it
Author Sweet_T Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 I know and trust me your words are appreciated. I just dont know what to do or how I go to this point. I just want him back! And I know that I've pushed him away. And that makes me crazy as well. And I know it's not about him, I know I need to work on making myself better, but my heart ain't listening to my mind and my heart has full control over me right now...
Infomercials Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Hey, Sweet_T, I know how you feel! I've been feeling a lot more anxiety since the breakup, especially when I think about him. Bluebelle's right, though. You're not going to help yourself by calling him when you feel this way. I think one of the best things to do is find what helps you relax. Even if it's just a simple little thing, I've found that it can help a lot. For me, it's things like deep breathing, painting, taking a bubble bath, having a cup of tea. The absolute biggest thing for me (and this may not apply to you) is getting out of the apartment because it was OUR apartment. I think the best advice I can give you is to try and find things that help you relax! And remember, others are feeling the same way here. You're not the only one!
Author Sweet_T Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 And that's another thing. I'm still in the apartment we shared. I hate being there. I really do I love and miss him so much and that makes me crazy in itself. He's hurt me so bad and I know he's moved on. This is crazy to me!
D-Lish Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I'm in the same position, the anxiety is pretty awful, and it's constant. But you can't call anymore, because it will make things much worse. It's also contributing to how you're feeling! You're creating some of the anxiety by calling him constantly - when he doesn't answer, you just send yourself into a tail spin. You have to start NC right away. The first few days will be tough- but you can exercise control!
Author Sweet_T Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 Yeah...Im starting it as of right now! This has gone too far. And it's only been a little over 2 months, but it's crazy to me! My emotions are all over the place and it kills me. But I understand that I just have to get over it
Infomercials Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 One thing about the apartment: If you haven't already, try and move all of the furniture into completely different places. Buy something new that's just yours, things like that. You can't change everything, but the more it looks like it did while you were together, the more it'll hurt, I think.
Vitai Slade Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I am officially loosing it! I miss him so much, it is physically making me sick. Ive tried to contact him, but he isn't accepting any of my calls! Why is this happening?!?!?! I feel like **** and it's killing me If you EVER want him back, go NC RIGHT AWAY. I made this mistake and it probably cost me getting her back. I dunno. I'm going NC now and just hoping it's not too late. Don't push him away further... give him time to miss you!
dsd85 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 i've been in your situation twice, with the same guy. he moved on and left me for someone he was cheating on me the first time. we eventually got back together cus i said to myself "i'm just too in love with him to let him go." second time, same thing, he was tired of our relationship so he left me. again, we got back together. from experience, it might seem like it's the end of the world..literally, but it isn't, it gets better, and it's up to you to decide if he is worth the anxiety, and pain, and stress you're putting yourself through....most of the times, they are not. and most likely, if the reason why you guys broke up was his fault and not yours, if you guys get back together you will one day wish you never did, because it will be harder for you in the end to stay with someone who caused you so much pain, and then the right guy will come along and you might miss your chance at TRUE happiness.
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