alexandra_rose Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Hi, My partner and I have have been together for over 3 years and we live together and have for about 1.5 years of that time. I moved from another City and moved to his City to be with him, somewhere where I knew nobody. My partner and I have discussed getting engaged. I haven't really met his parents, only seen them randomly, which they didn't even acknowledge my presence with a hello. They know I exist and am their son's girlfriend but didn't make any effort to towards me what so ever. My family on the other hand, an Italian Family, have welcomed him with open arms. They have spent a lot of money on him in regards to gifts and helping out financially as well (even bought him a trip to go overseas with me including spending money). His parents haven't even made the effort to say a hello to me or a "thankyou" to my family. His parents will take my partner our for dinner and do not invite me, so I have to stay home alone, especially when Im in a city where I have no one. My family is becoming extremely upset and insulted with this behavior now and Im starting to get very insulted myself. Can anyone provide me with some help and assistance, I'm desperate now.
Silivren Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Have you discussed this with your partner? What are his thoughts? Has he confronted his parents and asked them why they are behaving in this manner?
Rinnix Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I understand how you feel. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and his family couldn't care less about me. They had the chance to meet me once when I went over there, instead they turned there heads to me. They've tried to split us up multiple times, and never took the time or effort to get to know me as a person. Sit your partner down and tell him how you feel. As said above, possibly get him to talk to his family. There is no reason why you should be judged if they have not met you properly yet.
VicJay79 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Rose, Every family is different, and that is very important to understand. You can't expect his family to mimic the same behavior as your own. They have their own culture, and norms. This being said, I do think at the VERY least they should be nice to you. This doesn't mean they invite you to family dinners, but at least acknowledge your existance. I think the solution is to just talk to your significant other. In the culture where I am from, you don't just marry the person you marry their family. They will remain a part of your marriage as you get older. Hi, My partner and I have have been together for over 3 years and we live together and have for about 1.5 years of that time. I moved from another City and moved to his City to be with him, somewhere where I knew nobody. My partner and I have discussed getting engaged. I haven't really met his parents, only seen them randomly, which they didn't even acknowledge my presence with a hello. They know I exist and am their son's girlfriend but didn't make any effort to towards me what so ever. My family on the other hand, an Italian Family, have welcomed him with open arms. They have spent a lot of money on him in regards to gifts and helping out financially as well (even bought him a trip to go overseas with me including spending money). His parents haven't even made the effort to say a hello to me or a "thankyou" to my family. His parents will take my partner our for dinner and do not invite me, so I have to stay home alone, especially when Im in a city where I have no one. My family is becoming extremely upset and insulted with this behavior now and Im starting to get very insulted myself. Can anyone provide me with some help and assistance, I'm desperate now.
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