heartbrokn Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 ....How long do you wait to call her? ....Do you have second thoughts of why you broke up? ....Would you want her to call you? & what does it mean when you don't communicate with her for 3 weeks? Would you rather wait several weeks or several months b4 talkn with her again?
Irishlove Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I'm a girl but if you love her you DON'T wait unless she told you not to bother her again. There are no rules to this. Make sure you really want her back. You broke up for a reason.
ummike26 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Im going through this exact same situation right now. She left me 23 days ago and I have yet to contact her.. IMO you go NC immediately and get on with your life. Dont expect her to contact you.. If you are emotionally strong enough somewhere down the road to talk to her then go for it but in the mean time go NC and accept it's over..
Author heartbrokn Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 i am also girl, sorry if i confused you lol
Eddie Edirol Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 ....How long do you wait to call her? if she broke up with you, you NEVER call her. If you broke up with her, you never call her unless you plan on getting back with her. ....Do you have second thoughts of why you broke up? If you broke up with her, usually not because of whatever turned the guy off about her If she broke up with the guy, then usually. ....Would you want her to call you? Only if you wanted to repair the relationship. what does it mean when you don't communicate with her for 3 weeks? if she broke up with him, She has moved on and doesnt want to hear from him if he broke up with her, he has moved on and doesnt want to hear from her. Would you rather wait several weeks or several months b4 talkn with her again? If he broke up with her, no, if he wants to repair the relationship If she broke up with him, he shouldnt call her at all.
Author heartbrokn Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 thanks that very helpful, I'm going through this situation with my ex bf and i wanted to hear these things from a guy's perspective ! If you want, you should check it out ..... "Wondering, should i call him or move on ?"
nana841121 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 In my situation, i was girl dumper. But he moved faster, got a new GF within one month after the breakup i expected him to call me all the time. the reason i broke up with him is that we were lack of communication. i was naive to expect the breakup would wake him up and summon his courage to express himself.
Author heartbrokn Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 its crazzy because i expected him to call me but ....no call , so with all of this advice im doing better and have decided not to call him!!
D-Lish Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I always hold on to the fact that if they haven't called, it's because they have no desire to talk to us. That's what stops me from breaking NC. My bf broke up with me a month ago, and there has been no contact from him. I sent him one closure e-mail and asked him not to write me back. I know I will never hear from him again. Sometimes I have moments where I want to reach out and tell him I miss him- but I stop myself. If he wanted to get back together, he'd reach out. The fact that he doesn't gives me all the information I need to keep my pride intact. Reaching out to someone that broke up with you is just a bad idea. It's better to stay strong, keep yourself occupied and stop clinging to any hope that they want you back.
sonic3 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I initiated the breakup with my girlfriend a few months ago because I felt she was loosing interest and I was fed up of the way she treated me and her complete lack of respect/care. I have been in NC for 2 months, I have no intention of ever getting back with her, but that doesn't mean I don't care or think about her, far from it. I think about her constantly, some weeks it doesn't bother me, other's it does. Sometimes I question if I made the right decision, sometimes I miss her like crazy, other times I'm angry and despise her at how she treated me. You'll never know what the other person is really thinking, but from a male dumpers perspective it's really not as easy as some people think, it's certainly not a case of walking away and not caring. I'm probably finding it more difficult than she is, but perhaps that's because I feel somewhat rejected as well by her lack of interest and downright mistreatment.
2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 My ex initiated the start of the BU but never actually said she wanted to BU but we then drifted apart, I more or less said I have taken the hint and then called her bluff when she said we should try and meet up on a certain day because before that I had been trying to get her to meet up and resolve the issues but she wouldn't and just ignored me and came up with lame excuses to avoid meeting me. I only got this out of her after basically confronting her and I think she was just telling me what I wanted to hear. So I had no choice but to move on. This is the most difficult when they don't actually say they want a break up, although she mentioned friends and space (which is effectively broken up anyway) but then as I had to walk away to retain my sanity and pride she is now probably blaming me for the BU. Tough one! 2011
sonic3 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 That sounds exactly like what happened to me. Ex didn't speak to me for 4 days, then told me she didn't see much hope for us working out because I wanted to further my education. I broke up with her before she ditched me first. After this there was about a month of talking and trying to sort things out, I tried numerous times to meet up with her and resolve our problems but she kept making stupid excuses. She argued one night she couldn't meet me for at least a week because of work, how I could I even think about asking her to take time off work. I told her to forget it, it mustn't be important and she immediately texted back saying she could meet me right away, but I told her to forget it. Another week passed of her making excuses and what not, until I finally had just had enough and told her I couldn't see us working after everything that happened and us drifting apart, and that was that. She mentioned she needed 3 months space in there somewhere too, to move out on her own and get her driving testing, but I wasn't having any of that bull****. Blamed the whole thing on me in the end, it's all my fault, I lead her on blah blah blah
Author heartbrokn Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 feeling better, it hasn't been that long since the breakup but deep deep inside my heart it's begging him to call me!!! Even if he calls to say have a good day, sadly i just wanna hear his voice. It hurts so bad to be rejected by someone you truly love. For those of who listen to music for comfort, i recommend listening to " Over you" by Daughtry!!!! I'm watching " Forgetting Sarah Marshall" right now, great movie it's old but hey!, It makes me laugh!!!
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