jamrah Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I've been single now for eleven months, but i still miss her. We were together six years, but she left for an older lover. We don't speak anymore, which makes me sad. I definitely feel i am moving in the right direction but something in my gut tells me i love her. I think i may always love her. I've had a couple of flings. I passed uni, i got a new job. Ive got a great family and friends. I go to the gym, play drums. Got a new dog. But she's missing and i hate it. I guess life teaches you things and there's nothing you can do. I dont tell anybody how i feel anymore coz they have heard enough. She moved on a long time ago. Guess she met the right person for her. 1
Irishlove Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I'm a muscian as well and I find writing helps. Nothing but time will figure this one out. You are doing all you can do and that's living your life. Sometimes we just want what we can't have and once we get it we really don't want it.
GrayClouds Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 I've been single now for eleven months, but i still miss her. We were together six years, but she left for an older lover. We don't speak anymore, which makes me sad. I definitely feel i am moving in the right direction but something in my gut tells me i love her. I think i may always love her. I've had a couple of flings. I passed uni, i got a new job. Ive got a great family and friends. I go to the gym, play drums. Got a new dog. But she's missing and i hate it. I guess life teaches you things and there's nothing you can do. I dont tell anybody how i feel anymore coz they have heard enough. She moved on a long time ago. Guess she met the right person for her. Do not be to hard on yourself 11 months after a 6 year relationship is not that long. Add that to the fact it sound like she was your first love, it is going to take time to completely move on. Just do not start to make her more then what she was, remember she was human and had her imperfection. Also try hard not to confuse your missing that sense of connection and being in a intimate loving relationship with missing her. It hard at time to distinguish the difference at time but be aware of it is import to help you move on. Good Luck
Author jamrah Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 cheers guys, dont know what else to say. i've been sad for so long now its become quite normal. i guess i'm just very sentimental. u guys are on here too, so u know how much break ups suck. i guess i'll get there. have to start believing in myself. all the best to u....
GrayClouds Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 (edited) cheers guys, dont know what else to say. i've been sad for so long now its become quite normal. i guess i'm just very sentimental. u guys are on here too, so u know how much break ups suck. i guess i'll get there. have to start believing in myself. all the best to u.... Are you exercising? Working with a professional? You will find this book helpful: "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life" By Anderson. It is a good read, do the exercises even if they feel a bit silly, it will help. Edited May 8, 2011 by GrayClouds
Ghosst Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 It hurts because true love lasts forever..some people love more deeply than others and are willing to do what it takes to make it last a lifetime. I hope you next meet someone with your level of dedication. Those with that are the ones that you hear about whose marriages last 60 years....not the ones at 40 or 50 whose longest relationships have been 5 years. It may take you longer to recover and move on but you will have a true chance at real happiness once you do and meet someone like you.
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