PelicanPete Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 So the whole situation is I have been looking for a job for awhile. I have been a full time university student but none of my semesters the past year have been particularly challenging, so I have been looking non stop for a job for about 6 months now because school is expensive. I don't live in a very big town and as of right now it is very overpopulated which makes it very difficult to get a job. The whole thing about getting hired is having connections with employees or employers of the places you want to work. I have people I know working at certain places, but they are never hiring or needing anyone which makes things difficult. A lot of the jobs I have been applying for I am overqualified for, but there's nothing else available and I still don't get them because "oh so and so's son decided he wants to do it". I have solid work experience, excellent resume, etc. I'm just in some bad luck at the moment with trying to get a job. If it continues I'm gonna have to move to a different town. I have a very good friend that I talk to almost everyday. We've been buds since we were kids and he is well aware of the struggles I've faced this year and how badly I've been looking for work. He also lives in the same town, and started looking for a job a week ago because he felt he should get something to do. He's got no work experience or anything, but he applied at one of his other friends work and instantly got hired there. I don't know, I was initially a bit jealous when he first told me but now I am happy that he got a job because I know how hard it is. Maybe it is selfish of me but it doesn't feel right that I've been working my tail off to get a job, while hes been watching the whole time and when he wants a job he knows exactly where to find one. I don't know how long he has known about the job but I guess he deserves it more than I do. He hasn't mentioned anything like "dude you should apply where I am working and I can put in a good word for you" or anything like that yet, he has only mentioned I should take my mom out there for mothers day and tip big for him. I don't think I should ask him if he could put a good word in for me, hes well aware I am in dire need of a job. I guess I am a bit hurt over it. Do you think he's being a good friend here? Am I just feeling selfish? Thanks.
SpiralOut Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Well that is quite insensitive and thoughtless of him. It's hard to say if it is intentional on his part or not. I don't think it would hurt for you to ask him if they are still hiring at his company. That should be enough to give him a hint. If he still doesn't offer to help, I would ask if he could put in a good word for you. You need to be aggressive sometimes, especially if you really need a job. The way that he responds to you should give you an idea of how good of a friend he is or isn't.
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