rebe84 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 So I started talking dating this guy we met before our first date and we were so into each other and now we aren't even talking so I'm wondering if anyone can tell me what the heck happened. On our first date, it was going great until I think I told him I wanted to wait for sex until marriage but he said he was cool with it but he tried to sleep with me and told me he was sorry that he would wait for us and the right time. Then the very next day he ignores me and tells me the next day he slept with his ex from 3 years ago that he randomly met in a bar that day after our first date and that he was drunk when it happened. He didn't even tell me he was sorry and I thought it was complete bs, so I really didn't believe him and then he told me he wanted to put things on hold and since I didn't believe him, I was like sure that's fine. He told me he needed time to figure himself out and why he would do such a thing to mess everything up. Now he doesn't want a relationship with me, doesn't want to be friends, ect. I wasn't the one who wanted a relationship to begin with, he was all about it: planning trips with me, even before our first date, and he made posts on facebook about going on our first date with me. So this is all confusing to me on why he would just lie about this. Is it because I wouldn't sleep with him? I don't even know why I told him I wanted to wait for marriage. I really don't want that. It felt so fast, so I guess I was saying that to see if he would stick around. Our personalities get along great, so I can see us being friends. I asked him if he wanted to be friends and he told me not right now but maybe down the road. We both agreed to exchange our things: he has my necklace and I got his sweatshirt, when we are ready to be friends. I don't understand why this all happened. He was so into me and now he's mad at me and I don't know why. He sent me a nasty text message yestersday saying he doesn't want a relationship and doesn't want to talk about it, ect. Why would he attack me out of the blue? Any advice would help me because I'm stumped. I'm wondering if I could fix anything between us.
daphne Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I'm wondering if I could fix anything between us. Why on earth would you want to? I don't think you have to read the tea leaves to see that this guy is not good relationship material. The fact that he would be this inconsiderate and mean speaks volumes about his character. I would run and never look back. And ask yourself why you would want to accept this kind of behavior in your life anyway. There's a website baggagereclaim that another poster mentioned that will have a lot of answers your'e probably looking for. But don't assume that because he acted like he really liked you to begin with that he's worth having. He'll just make you miserable.
Nexus One Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 He's probably angry with you because you didn't have sex with him, but that's his problem. You were upfront that you didn't want sex before marriage, he tried to push it anyway. When his pushing didn't work he cheated on you with his ex. This is not the right guy for you, you need to look for a man that respects you and that will make you happy, not miserable.
CambridgeGirl Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 The guy is a fool, just wanted sex, no interest in dating without it, stop caring and forget him. Onwards, he won't be worrying about you one iota, so stop thinking about him and throw it away.
Professor X Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Any advice would help me because I'm stumped. I'm wondering if I could fix anything between us. You're seeking help in how to get yourself hurt in the future; Sorry, but no can do.
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