CAFguy Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Alright, so here's the thing..I met this amazing girl about a month back on a school trip, and we clicked just like that. I think she's the most gorgeous thing ever, and she likes me a lot too..we live about 5 hours away from each other, BUT we're both Seniors about to graduate and move on to college. Now here's where it gets a bit tricky..the night I met her, she was with one of her friends, and they BOTH like me. Her friend is super cute too, but honestly I dont think I like her the same way. They have basically been best friends their whole life, and when we were talking about it she (the one I like) told me that she truly likes me, but she doesn't want to hurt her friend by taking it further with me. I visited them both about two weeks ago, and it's so hard because I like her so much, and yet I can't hurt any feelings on either side by flirting too much or whatnot. And let me just say, I'm a guy who's not into the whole sex before marriage thing. I want to find a girl who I like so much that I can bare waiting for that..and I think I've found her.. So I need advice on what to do..honestly, we still dont know each other too well, but I see so much potential in us. I dont want to hurt her friends feelings either, and they aren't going to the same college..I was thinking of going to the university she goes to, cause things might change when she starts a new part of her life away from her friend? All I know is that every day I'm apart from her, it hurts me inside..not being able to go to prom with her, not hearing her voice..I can't see how I can just let her go..sometimes I wonder if she's half as crazy about me as I am about her.. So advice? I'd especially like some from a girl's point of view..
JungleLover Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 The important question here is - how much does her friend like you? If it is just a simple crush maybe the apple of your eye can ask how she would feel if you two dated. Maybe you can set her friend up with someone else to throw her off of your trail. Consider asking the woman you are interested in if her friend was alright with the idea of you two dating, would she date you. If she says yes, you have to work on the friend. If neither is comfortable with this, I wouldn't push it. You just can't screw with a lifelong friendship. The good thing is that you are about to start college and will likely forget about them both by autumn.
USCGAviator Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 The important question here is - how much does her friend like you? If it is just a simple crush maybe the apple of your eye can ask how she would feel if you two dated. Maybe you can set her friend up with someone else to throw her off of your trail. Consider asking the woman you are interested in if her friend was alright with the idea of you two dating, would she date you. If she says yes, you have to work on the friend. If neither is comfortable with this, I wouldn't push it. You just can't screw with a lifelong friendship. The good thing is that you are about to start college and will likely forget about them both by autumn. What she said
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