citrusdrop1688 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Ive been dating my ex for about 2 1/2 months and we have been trying to work on getting back together. The last month however, i have been really letting some insecurities get in the way. Lots of problems with me not believing things he told me, without any actual provocation. It all came to a head the other night when my therapist told me to look through his phone and i very stupidly did. Of course I interpreted something out of context to be something that it wasn't. And I confronted him. Hes soo upset, rightly so. And i really dont know if theres anything i can do to repair the damage i did. I love him so much and whats going on has nothing to do with him. Needless to say I need to get a new therapist. I have also been thinking suggesting that I take a month of very light interaction to try to work on myself and some of these issues ive been having. Any advice?
rayne05us Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Don't beat yourself up. That therapist sounds crazy, so def ditch her/him. You have to decided whether you made a mistake over some bad advice OR if it's that you don't trust him. If you don't trust him, you don't need to be in that relationship, period. If it's the mistake, don't beg him for his forgiveness...explain to him you were following some bad advice, and take the responsibility for your behavior. Assure him it won't happen again, if you definitely know it won't happen again. If you think it will happen again, maybe work on yourself. If he can't accept that, then move on. A therapist is only gonna do so much. YOU have to do the work. But at the very least treat people how you want to be treated.
Author citrusdrop1688 Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 I dont trust him alot of the time. The thing is Im pretty sure its actually my issue. Hes never done anything to deserve it. I trust him more then ive ever trusted anyone. For me though, thats not enough trust for a relationship to thrive on. I think I just have some personal stuff I need to work on.
rayne05us Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Well, yes...if you don't trust him and he's done nothing to deserve that. then it IS your issue. It may be insecurity or a bunch of other things that will show up in other areas of your life if you don't deal with it. Continue to work on yourself. Be the best person you can be and that will attract the kind of people you want in your life.
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