timwagner Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I had a 10 months long distance relationship (only 500 miles) and we had a amazing time together, never really having serious fights. she was all over me, and so I was all over hers. One months ago she started to doubt about her feelings; she became edgy sometimes and said I am too pushy. After me asking, she finally admitted her feelings were not strong enough to commit, even though she likes me a lot. After some discussion about it, we decided to break up without fight. This was also the moment she moved to another city for a totally new job. Now one week later, having no contact at all, she suddenly emails me "just to inform" me the job is great and the colleagues nice, and she ends asking how I am. I answered back a couple of hours later to tell her I am happy she is doing well in her new job - keeping it short. What should I think now ? Is she coming back on here decision ? Should I keep the distance for longer and let her settle on her new job first?
2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 A bit more info about the break up, was it a mutual decision? If it was then there would not be any reason to go NC and instead just play it cool and see where it goes. 2011
Author timwagner Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 The decision was actually not mutual. During the last conversation we had (that is exactly one week before I got this "how are you" email from her) she said she might not have enough feelings to commit to me right now. I replied to her that I respect her "decision" and wished here good luck for the first week in her new job. The word "break-up" was never spoken. But by saying this I realise that I may have actually initiated a break-up, giving her the wrong signals, which was not my intention. I dont think she is afraid about the distance. It is hardly a couple of 100 miles and she is used to travel a lot, like me. Is it possible I scared her off ? But then I think if she truly loves me this doesn't matter isn't it.
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