sensitive_98 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 (edited) So ill try to make this as brief as possible.3 years before i met my fiance' i came off of a really bad break up and before this break up i never knew how to be single....well about a year later i figured out how to be single and happy. In the midst of my singledom I met my fiance' where i was working at the time.She asked me to take her number after meeting me the second time and after work that night i went to her house and . . . .well you know . we became a friends with benifits without the friend part because i waas a bit of an ******* back then but she put up with me.Heres where it gets tricky. We met in oct of 08, me thinking that nothing would come of this relationship told her that i wanted her to sleep with other people because i didnt want her to catch feelings,my only rule was that she told me about it and that she used a condom. yes i know STUPID but at the time i really didnt care i just wanted to sleep around,something which i hadnt really done before never wouldve guessed id be in love with her her. Anyway like i previously said we met in oct of 08 and in nov she slept with some guy she that she knew from a mutual friend of theirs,wasnt trippin at all.However she did tell me about it and then forgot she told me about it and try to deny it ever happened AND then admit to it again but i let that go.But what i cant seem to let go of is new years eve of that year. She got drunk let two dudes come home with her and then proceeded to have sex with one in the bed and when he passed out slept with the other one in the bathroom. So when i asked her my normal "?" at the time (whens the last time you had sex) she only told me about one but she eventually told my about the other boy. Now in all fairness to her i told her it was ok to sleep with other people but once we really started to hang out and feelings started to develop new years was just too much for me to handle. We officially got together at the end of that year but i messed up and about a week before we got together (right in the middle of us talking about wanting to be in a relationship) i slept with someone else. it broke her heart, but she forgave me. Now its 3 years later we're engaged and with a baby on the way and i love her dearly but new years still completely breaks my heart and drives me crazy. Soooooooooooo am i being to sensitive? Should i just let the past be the past? I wanna here your opinion...... Edited May 7, 2011 by sensitive_98
Professor X Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Soooooooooooo am i being to sensitive? No, you are being selfish; You weren't together back then so it shouldn't be any of your business as you did the exact same thing. Should i just let the past be the past? I wanna here your opinion...... Yes, you should and the sooner the better. Besides, you got a baby on the way, so man up, suck it and move on.
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