xtiffanyleigh Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 My fiance of two years left me two weeks ago for his ex-girlfriend. They had been dating before we got together, but they had a very troubled 'relationship'. My fiance and I had recently gotten into a tight situation with money and we didn't know what we were doing with ourselves. Our life became quite boring. One night, he told me he couldn't do it anymore and left. Two days later, I met up with him and we stayed together for a few days. I didn't feel safe at home alone because of the tornadoes that were headed for our city, so I stayed with him. Everything was fine. He had been planning to move to New Jersey to be with his mom so he could talk to her about what he needed to do. Basically, his choice was between me or his ex. Over those few days, he decided I should move with him. I've been up here for a week and he isn't the same. He doesn't pay attention to me and he's constantly worrying about his ex. Two nights ago, he broke down and he said that he just needs to get her out of his head. He told his mom that as well. He promised me that he would come back for me because he knows we're supposed to be together forever. Today, he was talking to her and I decided I have had enough and bought a plane ticket to go home, which was his idea in the first place. He wanted me to leave so he could be with his ex and 'get her out of his system.' So, I'm leaving tomorrow and I was expecting him to be a bit more emotional about it. He has barely said a word to me since I bought my ticket and didn't even tell me goodnight when he went to sleep. Should I go home and try to forget about him? Or is this something normal that happens to guys? Please understand that he is the best friend I have ever had. I've been completely in love with him for over four years and I cannot imagine my life without him. I would rather wait for him to come back than to move on. I just need to know what to do. Help?!
coltsfan1 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Run away, if he has you and can't make up his mind then you should decide for him. He is probably going through somethings now and you don't need to be a part of it! Go back home and don't speak to him other than business. Never and I mean Never about the relationship. Not for at least 6-9 months.
nana841121 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Do not take promise too seriously. When he was promising, he probably meant it. Now time changes , people change too. let's move on.
PinkChic Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I am going through a different situation however... I woke up yesterday morning, looked myself in the mirror and said "Amanda, you deserve a man who loves you and only you, you deserve a man that has no question in his mind that he loves you and wants to be with you, you deserve a man that would fight through the hard times to make the relationship work and not run when the going got tough. You do not need someone who does not need you" I believe you deserve the same thing.
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