eerie_reverie Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Some practical tips from a 25 year old who has not been on a date in years and has not attempted any of the below: -do your internetting in a coffee shop - spend some time shopping around for one where the guys are of the type you might be interested in -join a gym -join a church -try meetup to expand your social circle -hang out at a bar alone -force yourself to start up conversations with strangers You can work these opportunities to bump hot strangers into your routine - PLAN to put yourself in situations where you might meet somebody (or somebody who knows somebody, since your existing social network is not doing that for you anymore.) If love is a numbers game, that might improve your chances.
HombreSincero Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 D-Lish, unless those aren't true profile pics of yours, you're a young hottie! Not to minimize the challenges you've mentioned, but how could it be difficult for you meet ppl? Go out with a few of the gals from your all-fem firm and do some of the things you love to do... Which by the way, what are some of those things pray tell?
westernxer Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 Breakups can trigger a bad case of hyperawareness, in which one can apply too much perspective to previously-written chapters. Once the trauma subsides, we move on (some better than others). In the long run, I think you'll be fine. In the short run, you just need to hang tight and not give in to the existential pain of being. I use it to work harder at staying true to myself.
cerridwen Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 (edited) Some practical tips from a 25 year old who has not been on a date in years and has not attempted any of the below: -do your internetting in a coffee shop - spend some time shopping around for one where the guys are of the type you might be interested in -join a gym -join a church -try meetup to expand your social circle -hang out at a bar alone -force yourself to start up conversations with strangers You can work these opportunities to bump hot strangers into your routine - PLAN to put yourself in situations where you might meet somebody (or somebody who knows somebody, since your existing social network is not doing that for you anymore.) If love is a numbers game, that might improve your chances. ^^Good advice! From what I can tell, you're so funny, you're so pretty, it's just a matter of exposing yourself to more men. Um...that didn't come out right but you know what I mean. Even if your friends throw a kiddie party, still go. One never knows who might be there! You look like you're in your late 20s. When you're out and about, I bet guys look at you often but perhaps you're unaware. Open up those peepers, put out that radar, even when out running errands. Edited May 8, 2011 by cerridwen
guy777 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 For me, meeting people is hard. If I'm not doing online dating, it's not going to happen. I don't get out much, all I do is work. I'd really like to get out more. If you live in So Cal, I'll call you. PM if interested and we can chat about exchanging numbers. I'm late 30's tall, dark, and some think handsome
hotgurl Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 why don't you try joining a club. what interests do you have? I know you work quite a bit. So getting out of work would help. What about a cooking class, language class? anything really.
Dust Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 why don't you try joining a club. what interests do you have? I know you work quite a bit. So getting out of work would help. What about a cooking class, language class? anything really. I'm in a relationship and I'd like to take both those things. Learn how to cook better, and learn a new language. (spanish)
westernxer Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I wonder if she will call him How can she resist? LOL
threebyfate Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I wonder if she will call him She can't. He doesn't have PM access yet unless he's become a supporting member. But who can blame him for trying? D's a hottie! I'd go gay for her.
Author D-Lish Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) D-Lish, unless those aren't true profile pics of yours, you're a young hottie! Not to minimize the challenges you've mentioned, but how could it be difficult for you meet ppl? Go out with a few of the gals from your all-fem firm and do some of the things you love to do... Which by the way, what are some of those things pray tell? Than you, those are true profile pics of me, relatively recent. I started talking to someone on POF that interests me a little bit, and he's pretty good looking. He's 35 though, same age as my recent ex, and my exH. I have an indirect history with him, one he doesn't know about. For years, I had a crush on his twin brother, but I never did anything about it. I did know he had a twin though, and the twin is even hotter. When he first messaged me I thought it was the other brother! The history won't matter as his brother never knew what I thought. ^^Good advice! From what I can tell, you're so funny, you're so pretty, it's just a matter of exposing yourself to more men. Um...that didn't come out right but you know what I mean. Even if your friends throw a kiddie party, still go. One never knows who might be there! You look like you're in your late 20s. When you're out and about, I bet guys look at you often but perhaps you're unaware. Open up those peepers, put out that radar, even when out running errands. I work in a busy city- I've seen guys I am attracted to, but besides having eye contact and a smile- people rarely make a move! I'm also confused as to who is gay and who isn't! There are a lot of gay guys strutting around in downtown Toronto. Most of the girls that work for me are in their early 20's, lol. My immediate boss is going through a divorce, and we are close- we've been meaning to get together. It does help to have single friends. When it comes to my friends and the kiddie parties- I don't really get invited to them! They usually keep it to strictly couples with kids. Edited May 10, 2011 by D-Lish
Author D-Lish Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 She can't. He doesn't have PM access yet unless he's become a supporting member. But who can blame him for trying? D's a hottie! I'd go gay for her. Lol, I've had a little girl on girl action T, so I could teach you some things:lmao::lmao: Which one of us would be the dominant?
Art_Critic Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Which one of us would be the dominant? You have to ask that D ... pictures.. I need pictures...
Author D-Lish Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 You have to ask that D ... pictures.. I need pictures... Oh yeah my friend, grab a diet coke and a dove dark and enjoy the image....
westernxer Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 You have to ask that D ... pictures.. I need pictures... Yes, pics or it didn't happen.
johan Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 You can put up the pics from that night if you want, D. But blur out my face, please.
Author D-Lish Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 You can put up the pics from that night if you want, D. But blur out my face, please. Are you talking about the photo I took with you begging to try on my underwear after you raided my make up drawer and dolled yourself up? Damn, I already sent it to Art.
Star Gazer Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I've seen your pics girlfriend;) Stunning and stylish is a given. The fact that I don't think I've ever seen you make a grammatical error in a post in the 6 years I've been on LS tells me that: a) you're not a big drinker, and b) you're smarter than the average bear:p I you, D! Wish I knew some good men in your area... I'd attach a homing beacon to them for you!
threebyfate Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Lol, I've had a little girl on girl action T, so I could teach you some things:lmao::lmao: Which one of us would be the dominant? We'll trade off! You have to ask that D ... pictures.. I need pictures...There's one in my avvy now. Now match this image up with D's avvy. Done!
Sassygirl2 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Hey D-Lish, I can relate to not liking being alone. I have never liked it. Ever since I got divorced (5 years ago) I have had 2 year long RS's and the one thing I miss the most is having someone around. Just knowing that my bf would be with me at night was such an awesome feeling. I think I'm co-dependent. A friend said I should go to a CODA meeting to see if it will help with me being too attached to the men I date. I know I have this issue but I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting to be alone for the rest of your life. I will always have my kids which is great but they don't provide the security a significant other does. I am 45 and most of my friends are married with kids and I am divorced with kids. My ex H has them 50% of the time so I have quite a bit of time to myself. I have some single friends but they are SO boring and not even interested in men. I'm thinking I need a hobby too. I guess my hobby was my relationship which I threw myself into. Like you, I work a lot and also go to school and have my girls, so I don't get out much dating or anything. My exbf who just dumped me was a divorced dad who I met online but we live in the same area and two of our kids actually go to the same school. Small world. It was great going to all the school functions together and our kids all saw each other at school. Now it's just weird. Anyway, everyone says that we will meet the right guy when it's time. I hope they're right! Meanwhile I'm going to put my jammies on and have some cocoa. Take care - things will get better - they have to.
Art_Critic Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Are you talking about the photo I took with you begging to try on my underwear after you raided my make up drawer and dolled yourself up? Damn, I already sent it to Art. ........
Disillusioned Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I've learned to accept being alone... enjoying the activities that give me pleasure. If the right woman exists, SHE'S going to find ME and she'll have to deal with me thinking with my head instead of my heart.
orangelady Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I've learned to accept being alone... enjoying the activities that give me pleasure. If the right woman exists, SHE'S going to find ME and she'll have to deal with me thinking with my head instead of my heart. That's arrogant. Why should she find you? And if you hate women that much, why do you even want to be with one?
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