collegeguy_24 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I have a legitmate question to ask. I have recently thought that me and my GF need to stop having sex, because that is the majority of the activity that we do. We can't even watch a two hour movie without having sex. I asked her if it would be OK if we stop sex, to try and find a deeper emotional connection for this relationship that does not revolve around us having sex. However, she made an interesting point. My ex did the exact same thing to me. She asked that we go without sex because she wanted to see if she loved me for me, or for my body and sexual skills. After a bit of time went by, she decided that did love me and wanted a long term relationship. Only to dump me two months later. I want to know, am I following in my exes footsteps? Cause I don't want to follow in her footsteps, as that just leads to disaster. At the same time, I want to see if me and my current GF have a deep connection that makes us compatible, or if we are just in this for the lust. Thoughts on this?
Flgirl44 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 No you need to enjoy your honeymoon period with as much sex as possible, you guys can test the limits of your love once that wears off. haha This is just my opinion of course.
Author collegeguy_24 Posted May 7, 2011 Author Posted May 7, 2011 we are way past the honeymoon stage though. and we do have some serious issues though. we are both trying to find a deeper meaning to this relationship.
Lilmisus Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 How long have y'all been together, and how long were you and your ex together? Some relationships are just very passionate filled, and some are just lust filled. I think that it's very wise to try to take a step back from the sex and see if there's more of a foundation there that you guys may be overlooking. Though, I don't think that you need to have it to where there is no sex. Maybe sex 1-3 times a week. Maybe have dates where you're in public settings. Like..you meet at a restaurant, then to go the movies, but take different cars to not encourage you guys to go back to your place for some fun. But, keep in mind that it wont really kill out the lust that you feel towards one another. It may in fact just increase it once it's in your thought process that you can't have sex.
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