miranda3379 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Long story short- I just got out of a relationship and miss my ex like crazy. I'm looking for a distraction to stop thinking of him and am thinking of trying online dating. I haven't signed up anywhere, am just browsing right now and am horrified at what I've seen! I tried POF and Match.com and on Match.com (its a paid site so I was thinking it would be better quality people) all the guys look like serial killers or they can't spell anything correctly or what they have to say is just a total turnoff. I'm not looking for a fling or just sex but it seems that is what everyone wants on those sites. anyone have any advice or good experiences?
stace79 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I would not recommend paying for Match.com yet. I've used it a couple times. It's okay, but yes there are a lot of flakey people on there and people looking for flings. I've even gotten men who say they are separated but are actually still married and just want to find someone to have an affair with. I'd say if you need distraction, try to get involved in activities you enjoy. If you like sports, see if there's a for-fun kickball or softball league near you. If you like animals, volunteer at a shelter. You are more likely to meet people who have similar characteristics by doing these things, and you won't be rushing into dating for the wrong reasons either.
Lil1 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I'd say if you need distraction, try to get involved in activities you enjoy. If you like sports, see if there's a for-fun kickball or softball league near you. If you like animals, volunteer at a shelter. You are more likely to meet people who have similar characteristics by doing these things, and you won't be rushing into dating for the wrong reasons either. I agree with Stace79. I also went in search of a 'distraction' after my ex left me, and I actually thought I was ready to start dating again so I tried match.com and met someone (my very first date) who is very sweet and genuine. However he was really looking for a serious relaionship and I realized after a few dates that I wasn't able to jump into another one just yet. If you do decide to start online dating just make sure you are being honest with yourself and also honest with the men you date because it's not right to play with people's emotions. I had to let my match.com guy know that I wasn't really ready for a relationship after all and I know I disappointed him but he appreciated me letting him know sooner than later. I think the best way for you to get over your ex will be to focus on making yourself a better person, and you won't achieve that by breaking innocent hearts. Best of luck to you!
SJC2008 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I wouln't recommend dating because contrary to popular belief, men do have feelings. I went on a date a couple of months ago (seemed like it went well) and girl would not return my calls . Finally, I texted her asking what's up and she said she had a breakup and thought she was ready to date again but was not and apologized. Assuming she was telling the truth, she left me out to dry, wondering what the hell I did to get blown off after 1 date, not too good for the ego. So I would not recommend it. Sorry for what your'e going through. It sucks, but time heals.
Nexus One Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Long story short- I just got out of a relationship and miss my ex like crazy. I'm looking for a distraction to stop thinking of him and am thinking of trying online dating. I haven't signed up anywhere, am just browsing right now and am horrified at what I've seen! I tried POF and Match.com and on Match.com (its a paid site so I was thinking it would be better quality people) all the guys look like serial killers or they can't spell anything correctly or what they have to say is just a total turnoff. I'm not looking for a fling or just sex but it seems that is what everyone wants on those sites. anyone have any advice or good experiences? So you're intending to use someone who's looking for a relationship as a mere "distraction"? It's highly likely that the only result this will have is you rebounding on that person. That's not fair to them.
stace79 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 So you're intending to use someone who's looking for a relationship as a mere "distraction"? It's highly likely that the only result this will have is you rebounding on that person. That's not fair to them. She's not being malicious. She just wants to meet people, go on some dates and have fun. There is nothing wrong with that as long as she is upfront that she is not ready for a serious relationship yet.
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