strlixx Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 hey i'm dating someone and they seem to think i'm uninteresting. they say they love me andstuff btu they dont really act like they do. i feel lonely and i see this person everyday. i hate being the chaser and i am tired of this problem. what should i do.......they say they love me and we have been dating for a while now.
Author strlixx Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 i have...and sry, guess i thought that this was wat this website was 4. outside advice...
Author strlixx Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 it was that i was being too tense nd that i should relax. i feel like...i would relax if i had more consistency, u kno?
ShatteredReality Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 How long have you been together? And if I may, how old are you and he?
Author strlixx Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 hes 20, i'm 19. i kno my english looks like im a young kid, lol. its because english isnt my first language nd im still learning the basics of writing. and talking! ummm its hard ! we have been together 4 about a year now and we dated before this a lil. its been on and off that he treats me weirdly and now it seems to only b on
Professor X Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 hey, so i posted in anuther category. basically i'm frustrated cuz the person i'm with doesnt show their feelings/acts distant nd uninterested. they never act like i'm saying sumthing interestng and it hurts my feelings a lot. ive brought it up but nothing works. im starting to feel...distant from them, nd they dnt seem 2 care. theys ay they do tho i feel liek im wasting my feelings on sum1 thatwill never really love me.........and like i should move on . theyr so jealous and get so mad whenever i talk to anyone else though, id ont know what to do. i flirted with someone when i was at a party recently and i dont know why, it was cuz my sig. other had ignored me for a while 2 weeks. so i flirted wit some1 else nd they found out and threatned to dump me what do i do? Actions speak louder than words and his lack of actions suggests that your BF doesn't seem to care that much about you; Despite you talking to him. Try to confront him a few more times regarding your feelings, tell him you feel you're getting distant from one another, and when/if he tries to calm you, just tell him that you're calm and that's simply how you feel. Regardless, you shouldn't go flirt with others if you are still in a RS with him; If you reach the point where you want attention from any men, than just break up with him.
ShatteredReality Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 No worries on the English...that wasn't what made me think you were young. I know plenty of people born and raised in the US who still can't speak or write and actually make sense.... That aside....Any chances you have cultural differences?? Maybe he just doesn't know how to treat a woman yet?? Or it's always possible that you're a bit demanding/clingy?? I am just tossing ideas out there. If you have talked to him and you still feel like things aren't working it might be time to move on...but if you feel like there can be improvements on both sides then I say take a shot. Tell him one or two things he could do to help you relax...and if he actually does them then you have to keep up your end of the bargain and relax - not ask for more from him and make more stipulations. It's tough, but there's got to be give on both sides of a relationship to make it work.
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