girlygirl2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Hello all, I am in desparate need of advice, or maybe I know what to do I just need to be given encouragement as I am scared of the outcome... Ok here goes: so my boyfriend and I have been together for just over 2 years. We have just got engaged. He is the sweetest, loveliest and most amazing person I have ever met and I can't imagine life without him. We are a good couple and compliment eachother well. I like to think that we have good communication but there are a couple of things that have been sore topics in the past. We have discussed them but for me some things haven't been resolved. He is old friends with these 2 sisters. They live about an hour away from us. They are by all intense and purposes very sweet and I couldn't say a negative thing about them BUT they are VERY clingy and spending time with them is very hard work and I always feel very drained after an evening with them. When I first got to know them I was a bit intimidated by them as they are real perfect girls in the sense of they go to church they don't swear, they are really really (too much imho) sweet and I am more of a secret tomboy with a party girl past (my boyfriend knows all of this and he is himself quite straight laced) so initially I was intimidated as I saw them as the "perfect" woman. I told him this and he told me not to be so silly, that they had their faults and that he loved me for who I am and liked the fact that I had an edge to me. Anyway.... we continue to spend time with them and it's really not a problem but recently they have become very demanding and we have already seen them 3 times in the past 7 days and they are already organising the next 3 weeks! Because my fiancè is the lovely guy that he is, he just says yes all the time but now Im starting to feel unhappy as it's just too much time with them. I feel awful as it's not like I don't like them but it's too much. I know I have to talk to him and tell him but Im petrified he will think of me as a bitch as they are "so sweet". But I know I have to say something as it's getting me down and surely that's not right. Anyhoo, would appreciate any pearls of wisdom you lovely people may have. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx:bunny:
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 If you phrase it right, you won't sound like a biatch. 3 times in a week is a LOT. If you just explain that you want more "us" time, I hope he'd understand. Especially since you two are about to get married. Early congratz!
welikeincrowds Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I think you know what to do. Making arrangements to not have to suffer these utterly overbearing and horrendous-sounding women is only your secondary goal. Your primary goal is to share your feelings with your partner, who will certainly not judge you, and may even feel the same way. This is the man you intend to marry; do you really want to (irrationally) feel like you need to hide from him?
Author girlygirl2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 Thanks guys, I spoke to him and it all went alot better than I expected, he was a little defensive at first but I explained it wasn't a jealousy issue and I didn't mind him spending time with them, just that I found them a bit "heavy". He understood in the end and all is well. We both admitted we are being a bit lazy with our other friends too so have agreed to start organising more with other friends too. Thanks again lovely ladies Sx
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