ilovedhim Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Do you guys have your ex blocked? Calls, text, IM, facebook, etc.? If so, how realistic do you think this is considering they can just use another phone/account to contact you?
Chi townD Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Why? Is this happening to you? A lot of times when the other person realizes that they're are blocked from you, they just got a clue that you want nothing to do with them. They usually leave you alone unless they're immature and want to vent at you that you've blocked them.
Author ilovedhim Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 Yes. Last night I told my ex I was blocking him. He said OK. The problem is when i told him to not contact me about a month ago, he sent a message 3 weeks later. So I was in the process of blocking him today and just realized how dumb it was becuase it's so easy to make up another email, facebook account, etc. and just contact the person.
nana841121 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 yeah, blocked ex on instant online chatting tool, mailbox, cell phone he got it, and left me alone
Author ilovedhim Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 I don't know why I'm hesitant when I know its one of the best ways to cut out hope and heal fast. Stop hoping nothing will change and even if it does so what? We will never be together again.
Desensitized Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I don't know why I'm hesitant when I know its one of the best ways to cut out hope and heal fast. Stop hoping nothing will change and even if it does so what? We will never be together again. You have a realist attitude, so use that to your advantage - easier said than done, of course, but you have the ability to not contact him even if you don't block him. You know you two will never be together ever again, so just tell yourself this every time you want to hear from him/talk to him. Remember, there's more than one true love out there, and you will find it. What the movies show about there only being one true love out there is complete b.s., so just remember that. Good luck, and i still say there's no need to block him, just start NC.
betterdeal Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I don't know why I'm hesitant when I know its one of the best ways to cut out hope and heal fast. Stop hoping nothing will change and even if it does so what? We will never be together again. Ah, but it's not cutting out hope, it's gaining hope, letting hope back into your life. Hope that you will be okay and flourish after you close the final page on this chapter in your life. It was the most liberating, relief-bringing thing I did, blocking her and changing my phone number. No more having to put the phone in airplane mode at night to guarantee no disturbances, no booty calls. No more seeing dribbling morons blowing her kisses on Facebook. No more looking over my cyber-shoulder when doodling in Facebook. I even did the same with a once friend who was pissing me off. Again, liberating. Sometimes it's better to have a good enemy than a bad friend.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I dont have her blocked or deleted. She is still in my phone, but I don't contact her. I still have her email, but I don't send any. And while we are no longer friends on Facebook, neither of us blocked the others. We just havn't contacted each other. I refuse to contact her unless its life or death. I did before, I refuse to now. She is more then welcome to contact me, but I know she won't. All that is left now is will power. My will power keeps me from contacting her.
bslchump Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I'm in a situation as collegeguy, though I don't have his positive outlook or determination. I don't have her actually blocked on anything, and I still have her number in my phone, though I haven't used it. I've been considering deleting it (even though I remember it by heart anyway) just so I don't have to see her damn name every time I open my "contacts" list. The only reason I haven't yet is for the same reason I haven't deleted all the pics of her off my phone; it's too painful. I just don't ever want to deal with it.
0hpenelope Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Do you guys have your ex blocked? Calls, text, IM, facebook, etc.? If so, how realistic do you think this is considering they can just use another phone/account to contact you? Nope. I changed my Skype account. Still a Facebook friend and I do not look at his Facebook profile. Not worth the crappy feeling afterwards. I'll look at it again for U.S. $1,000,000.
Author ilovedhim Posted May 7, 2011 Author Posted May 7, 2011 i've decided i'm not going to block because it seems pointless. but have deleted him everywhere. this last time i didnt want to respond to him. i know i'm strong enough to ignore. Desensitized - i don't believe in TV/movie love, flowers die. but i do believe there is that one person that you just have inexplicable feelings for. it's more than love. betterdeal - hahaha on the midnight calls! yes today i feel loads of energy like a weight has been lifted finally. this dysfunctional relationship was a huge distraction. bslchump - id created a folder and hide her info in it. i won't delete pics either. those are memories that one day won't be painful to look at. put them on cd or print them out and hide them somewhere. you may regret it.
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