Djshmh Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 and now I am paying for my mistakes, finally... I knew this day was coming but I never expected this. I thought I would successfully finish my nursing education, at the least. However, things got pretty bad for me and it ended in getting kicked from nursing school. There is no excuse for it. I will not allow myself to make excuses anymore. I shouldn't have been chasing him (a man who doesn't love me back). I was so clouded by this imaginery vision of him caring, that I became completely undiscerning towards my real goals in life. At this moment in life, I'm just humbled to have a job that I enjoy. I might not make as much as a nurse would have made but it's still liveable. My question is this. I keep on getting overwhelming thoughts of not being abl to find the man of my dreams because my lack of education (I might go back if I can afford it?)... Do people generally discriminate like that? I'm not even looking but even if I was, I would have no idea as to where to look. Not to sound judging, but when I was, I preferred an educated man..Someone I could have a great conversation with. I don't think the education factor really matters to me, as long as they are employeed and like to make money....
JohnnyBlaze Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I can't speak for the rest of 'em, but I prefer a smart woman. That doesn't mean she has to have a post-secondary education; I just want to be able to have an intelligent conversation with her from time to time.
start-fresh Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I agree with JohnnyBlaze, a degree isn't necessary, but someone has to have intelligence. There's a lot of other ways someone can be intelligent other than being book smart, and there's a lot of really dumb women that have college degrees. I think a natural curiosity about life, emotional intelligence, and open mindedness are all more important than someone who can do calculus.
Dust Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 When you’ve been through as much education as I have you realize that some of the smartest people are also the stupidest. What I mean is being a professor or rocket scientist doesn’t make you some sharp witted interesting person. You be yourself, the best version of yourself you can be and the person who loves you for being that what ever that might be is who is best for you.
dollface07 Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 and now I am paying for my mistakes, finally... I knew this day was coming but I never expected this. I thought I would successfully finish my nursing education, at the least. However, things got pretty bad for me and it ended in getting kicked from nursing school. There is no excuse for it. I will not allow myself to make excuses anymore. I shouldn't have been chasing him (a man who doesn't love me back). I was so clouded by this imaginery vision of him caring, that I became completely undiscerning towards my real goals in life. At this moment in life, I'm just humbled to have a job that I enjoy. I might not make as much as a nurse would have made but it's still liveable. My question is this. I keep on getting overwhelming thoughts of not being abl to find the man of my dreams because my lack of education (I might go back if I can afford it?)... Do people generally discriminate like that? I'm not even looking but even if I was, I would have no idea as to where to look. Not to sound judging, but when I was, I preferred an educated man..Someone I could have a great conversation with. I don't think the education factor really matters to me, as long as they are employeed and like to make money.... Okay I am going to be harsh so brace yourself because you've posted here and have opened yourself up to constructive criticism: I know that I don't know you personally but I have personally gone through a similar story as yours in any case I am extremely concerned by your "overwhelming thoughts" how can you fix the problems by keeping the same thought patterns? The whole reason you got in this position is b/c you were chasing a false hope to be with an emotionally unavailable man YET he's fine going on in life without the major ramifications that you are going though i.e. nursing school fiasco...look you are STILL thinking about concerns of men and looking at things with a lens of finding the right one etc...you have got to try your hardest to embrace the uncertainty that maybe you won't find your prince charming (most likely you will surely because you're a valuable human being and attempted to help others as in a nursing profession) BUT you have really got to convince yourself that the man issue will not be on the peripheral of your life and SUCCESSFULLY obtaining your own life goals ambitions hopes and dreams is now the center he was selfish learn from him and be selfish too it's OKAY to take care of yourself the way you would take care of your patients honey...now regardless of whether you were kicked out you CAN go back and write a convincing letter to the dean of students that you have what it takes if not at that school than a different one and once you focus all your productive emotional and physical energy on your studies and goals instead of allocating it to the not inherently wrong life aspects of men love and the one but just wrong placement of importance and timing at this stage in your life so chill out and dont ever give up on yourself if you are destined to fall in love and find the one he will be much happier that you are a clever confident and successful woman all on your own and that you dont need him to complete you but rather to be an enhancement to your already lovely happy life...after this all will take place AFTER you are in the right mental framework to take on a relationship without letting it take you on an emotional rollercoaster that will hurt your grades and career choices...look if you do find the one and you choose to just be taken care of marry rich and even quit nursing to have children you wont have any life regrets because you tried your hardest and tasted sweet educational/career success despite getting knocked down hard when you were let go from nursing school the first time...dont give up good luck hope i didnt offend you i just can really relate to you
samoajoe Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 It is just natural. Many teens find themselves dealing with emotional issues that hamper their ability to perform in school or excel in social settings. For young adults like this, the sense of discipline and self-worth that come from the rigorous training found at military schools could be the perfect option to get them back on track and ready to grow into mature and responsible adults.
D4ly1341 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Chuck Palahniuk once said, and it sticks with me: "Your birth is a mistake that you will spend the rest of your life trying to correct."
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