Time seems to be flying by but at the same time seems to be so slow...

[SCG_Sasa1111]

Its been about 6 months now since the break up. 4.5 years she threw away everrything we had for another guy because she developed "feelings" for him when I left for vacation for 15 days..the only time during those 4.5 years that we were apart for that long. What I don't get it is I felt like i was improving and moving on but ever since the semester ended and school has finished I feel like i am at square one again. Time seems to be going ..when I think about 6 months passing thats half a year but in side me it feels like that time hasn't actually passed and it feels like thats a long time. This girl meant everything to me and I know this process is up and down..but i am trying to understand why I feel like I am back at square 1.

 

I also felt like I was using this girl I knew who came into the picture as a distraction. I was trying to make myself want her and to go for her..but really when I think about it i was only doing that to fill in the void that was left. and now I realize at how stupid that is and as I realize that it only makes me feel even more worse and the fact that 6 months have passed and I know I have improved but this pain is still there and its feels like its haunting me.

 

can someone provide me insight on this? I am doing everything it says NC and stuff but it feels like as days go by it gets harder and harder rather than easier; especially because Im gona go by her area now more during the summer because thats where we play soccer daily. etc etc...plz some insight would be greatly appreciated.

 

Ps. This pain is worst thing I have ever experienced in my life (you can basically say this is my first broken heart) and its amazing how a girl can affect your entire life just like that....

Edited May 6, 2011 by SCG_Sasa1111

[whoknowswhattodo]

Its been about 6 months now since the break up. 4.5 years she threw away everything we had for another guy because she developed "feelings" for him when I left for vacation for 15 days..the only time during those 4.5 years that we were apart for that long. What I don't get it is I felt like i was improving and moving on but ever since the semester ended and school has finished I feel like i am at square one again. Time seems to be going ..when I think about 6 months passing that's half a year but in side me it feels like that time hasn't actually passed and it feels like that's a long time. This girl meant everything to me and I know this process is up and down..but i am trying to understand why I feel like I am back at square 1.

 

I also felt like I was using this girl I knew who came into the picture as a distraction. I was trying to make myself want her and to go for her..but really when I think about it i was only doing that to fill in the void that was left. and now I realize at how stupid that is and as I realize that it only makes me feel even more worse and the fact that 6 months have passed and I know I have improved but this pain is still there and its feels like its haunting me.

 

can someone provide me insight on this? I am doing everything it says NC and stuff but it feels like as days go by it gets harder and harder rather than easier; especially because Im gona go by her area now more during the summer because thats where we play soccer daily. etc etc...plz some insight would be greatly appreciated.

 

Ps. This pain is worst thing I have ever experienced in my life (you can basically say this is my first broken heart) and its amazing how a girl can affect your entire life just like that....

 

Amen, I feel the same way. Its only been 24 days for myself nc and I know I will always feel like something is missing.

I've had some very attractive girls, girls that blow my ex out of the water, throw themselves at me and can't do it. Because iim thinking of her. I find myself saying she will be back one day and if I haven't moved on we can give it another shot.

But my ex is already dating her ex before me. So I'm just moving forward day by day and hopefully I will find someone better or she will return as a better person.

I know if I can get another connection with someone else, I will be able to turn my back to the past. I'm beginning to think more rationally and this has changed me forever.

But my emotions get up like yours and cloud my judgement. I try to say she will be back one day and it will be up to me then. I say that to myself and it does calm me down then I get angry because she acted so stupidly.

Everyone tells me she will be back also and not to sweat it. Because when she comes back I will have moved on. Idk what I really want or going to do right now?

Try saying that to yourself and take a step out and see where it goes with some other women. Not just a lay but a connection.