Catkins Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Hello there, any advice would be appreciated :-) I left my husband 2 years ago. We had been married 10 years when I left. Their are many reasons why I chose to leave him, he's a drug addict and an alcoholic so as you might imagine that had a lot to do with the breakdown of our marriage, his behavior was completely selfish and he was disgusting to be around. If he wasn't high on drugs he was lying in bed depressed and that was basically the top and bottom of it. When we were first married I knew he had a background of drug abuse but he told me he would get sober and he did for a while but then slowly things got worse and worse. It was a living nightmare. The other thing is I suspect he's gay. There's a whole bunch of reasons why I suspect this but I'm pretty sure I'm right, through incidents that have occurred - and a very strong gut instinct. Anyway things got so bad that I was contemplating suicide. With support from friends and family I got up the courage to leave and I never went back. Since then I've been trying to rebuild my life which has been really hard. The first year I left I was a complete mess, depressed and miserable, I had a total breakdown, both mentally and physically. Now I'm feeling a lot better in those respects. I'm living with my parents and have no money or job yet but at least I'm stronger now and ready to face the world again. So after all this he's now asking me for a divorce and says it must happen as quickly as possible, obviously I want a divorce but I'm really not sure how I should proceed here. He says he'll file for it and pay for it. We don't share any assets like a house or anything but he does have a lot of my belongings still. Also there's no children. Should I be cautious or just go ahead and just get it over with... At the end of the day I just want to be free of him. He's a really manipulative nasty person and I feel sick just thinking about him. Any advice I'd really appreciate and I also just wanted to say to anyone who's gone through anything similar there most definitely is light at the end of the tunnel you just have to persevere, I thought my life was over and it certainly isn't easy now either but you do get through things, never give up.
PegNosePete Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 It would help a lot if you can tell us which country you live in. Divorce laws are significantly different across the world.
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