somedude81 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Ugh, today was the last day to ask her out. It was a club meeting but there were a lot of people and she was being very sociable. I just couldn't really talk to her today. There is a very good chance that I'll never see her again. She knows who I am and I've talked to her briefly on several occasions. The only way I have to get in touch with her is over Facebook. If so, I'd offer to buy her lunch. Just something really casual. Yes, no?
Enchanted Girl Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 It's better than not asking her out at all, but I'd try to get her phone number first over facebook if possible to see if she wants to see you outside of whatever club you are talking about and because asking someone out over the phone is more personable.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Yup. Go ahead and do it. You only live once (or twice if your Sean Connery/James Bond).
Author somedude81 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 Get her phone number first, how? I was thinking of sending her something like ----- Hey (name), Today was fun, but I wanted to talk to you a little more. Lets have lunch next week, what's your number? --------- It just doesn't seem good enough.
Enchanted Girl Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Get her phone number first, how? I was thinking of sending her something like ----- Hey (name), Today was fun, but I wanted to talk to you a little more. Lets have lunch next week, what's your number? --------- It just doesn't seem good enough. Actually, that's not bad at all.
Sabali Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Get her phone number first, how? I was thinking of sending her something like ----- Hey (name), Today was fun, but I wanted to talk to you a little more. Lets have lunch next week, what's your number? --------- It just doesn't seem good enough. Ok but I must say that asking a lady out this way is lame but I agree with enchanted that it beats not asking her out at all. I edited your response to one that is more appropriate: -------------------------- Hey (name), Give me your number so I can call you. ------------------------------------- Once you get her on the phone, ask her out. Just a personal thing with me... lunch sounds so business and non-romantic.
Author somedude81 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 To me, lunch is casual and inexpensive. Plus we're just college students.
runner Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 no. facebook, email...that's just lame. ask her in person or on the phone. if you don't have her number yet, you need to engage her in conversation (and not just talk at her whilst her eyes glaze over in boredom). and then when it's time to run, you look her intently and say you'd like to meet her again later; most girls know what you mean and will hand you their number happily- granted she enjoyed your presence.
Art_Critic Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 There is a very good chance that I'll never see her again. Then.... ----- Hey (name), Today was fun, but I wanted to talk to you a little more. Lets have lunch next week, what's your number? --------- This is pretty good...
Author somedude81 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 I know it's lame, but I'm not going to see her again unless I contact her over Facebook. Though I should have used your idea when I saw her today. What I wanted to do was talk to her for a few minutes, then get her number. There was just too many things happening.
Author somedude81 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 LOL, I just sent that message. May the lord have mercy on my soul. If she replies, I'll post it. At least we all can have a good laugh.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I know it's lame, but I'm not going to see her again unless I contact her over Facebook. Though I should have used your idea when I saw her today. What I wanted to do was talk to her for a few minutes, then get her number. There was just too many things happening. For guys who are good with girls there's never "too many things happening". Unfortunately, not all guys are good with women. Your idea is not bad though.
Sabali Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 To me, lunch is casual and inexpensive. Plus we're just college students. Well, I agree with the inexpensive part but you want something a bit different than simply "casual." You say "casual" and the first things that comes to mind is "business casual." Look, you know this woman already. Right? Step it up a notch and keep it inexpensive. You are in southern Cali, right? It's warm...
Star Gazer Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I'm hoping you're FB friends with her. If so, you can just start commenting on her statuses and such to develop some sort of rapport, and THEN send her a message to shoot the breeze and ask her out. If you're not friends with her, friend her now, and do as above. If you're not friends with her, I would advise against sending her a cold message to ask her out. If I were her, the message that would send me would be, "He's had every opportunity to do this in person, and waited until after I no longer see him to send me a message on FB? Coward!" See where I'm going with this...
vsmini Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Just make sure all your interactions/initiating don't happen via email, text or facebook otherwise she will be on the LS forum asking us "why does he only talk to me on facebook?" You gotta be able to ask her things in person and on the phone sometimes too.
Art_Critic Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 LOL, I just sent that message. May the lord have mercy on my soul. If she replies, I'll post it. At least we all can have a good laugh. Good for you.... you only live once and you can't be intimidated by the other sex..
Cee Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Sumdude, I'm pulling for you. If not this one, then you got some practice out of it.
Sabali Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 If you're not friends with her, I would advise against sending her a cold message to ask her out. If I were her, the message that would send me would be, "He's had every opportunity to do this in person, and waited until after I no longer see him to send me a message on FB? Coward!" I can hear my grandmother hollering "bingo!" For guys who are good with girls there's never "too many things happening". Grandma just won at Bingo again. LOL, I just sent that message. May the lord have mercy on my soul. If she replies, I'll post it. At least we all can have a good laugh. Please don't tell me that you sent the unedited version. Refer to the above Star Gazer quote in this post for insight into my concern regarding your unedited post.
Art_Critic Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Please don't tell me that you sent the unedited version. Refer to the above Star Gazer quote in this post for insight into my concern regarding your unedited post. The edited version would have been okay too.. but either gets the point across
Sabali Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 The edited version would have been okay too.. but either gets the point across I think the unedited version get the point across a lot more and a lot sooner than the edited version and that is what I am against at this point. There is a certain amount of fun and excitement that you don't want to take away from this too soon . There's my 2 cents. Spend it how you like, OP. The most important thing to do, of course, it to make some sort of move. At least you have done that.
Author somedude81 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 I'm hoping you're FB friends with her. If so, you can just start commenting on her statuses and such to develop some sort of rapport, and THEN send her a message to shoot the breeze and ask her out. If you're not friends with her, friend her now, and do as above. If you're not friends with her, I would advise against sending her a cold message to ask her out. If I were her, the message that would send me would be, "He's had every opportunity to do this in person, and waited until after I no longer see him to send me a message on FB? Coward!" See where I'm going with this... I am FB friends with her, but she never posts anything. Usually she just signs on to upload photos And yes I did send the unedited version. I didn't have anything to lose. If she does reply, I'm expetcing an evasive message or some sort of excuse why she's busy all of next week. Lets find out
Art_Critic Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 If she does reply, I'm expetcing an evasive message or some sort of excuse why she's busy all of next week. Lets find out Just don't under any circumstances send another email is she doesn't reply... She got your message.. both in her personal email and on FB. If she doesn't email you that is your reply.
Sabali Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 If she does reply, I'm expetcing an evasive message or some sort of excuse why she's busy all of next week. And may I ask why are you expecting such a negative outcome from all of this. I agree with you but I think your reason and my reason may be different. In any event, there is something to be gained from this. I am an advocate of not showing your hand so soon in such a situation...not in all situations just in certain ones...particularly in ones in which you already somewhat or simply know the person. There is a certain a situation like that must be approached as opposed to someone you simply meet at a party. I am happy enough that you gathered the guts to make a move at all on this one so this is fair enough.
Sabali Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Just don't under any circumstances send another email is she doesn't reply... She got your message.. both in her personal email and on FB. If she doesn't email you that is your reply. Would you please;at least, follow this, OP? I know you can.
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