likestolaugh Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Hi everyone, I'm currently in a 2+ year relationship... and am worried that I might be losing interest. I'm wondering if my reasons are legitimate... I love my gf. She is a sweet, warm, and often affectionate person. However, I feel like she is really lacking in passion... a passion for something in life. She has no direction... and floats around from one thing to another, but never really does anything seriously. We are both in the arts and to succeed in that you need a really strong work ethic. You can't take weeks off all the time. She doesn't seem to have enough discipline to make a positive change in her life, and no matter what I tell her she doesn't seem to understand this (or want to understand it). Her mentality is very much one that identifies with a sort of cliche hippie attitude. I don't feel inspired by her, and wish I was with someone who had a real goal in life, which she doesn't. There are other smaller things... we live together and I find that I do the large majority (85%+) of the work around the house, you know, the everyday things like cleaning, dishes, etc. I don't feel like she really ever goes out of her way to do something special for me (unless it in some way has an effect on her... and even then). I sometimes feel like I'm just taken for granted, and while I haven't told her that directly, I have told her that I wished she took more initiative in things and helped out more around the house. I have told her that I feel like she goes out of her way more for a few of her friends than for me. I don't want to make her sound like a diva, as she's not... she's not high maintenance and does try to eat well and stay relatively healthy (in spurts). On a side note we also don't have that much sex (a few times a month). Honestly we never have, even at the beginning of the relationship... It's often me who initiates, but I often just don't care enough to initiate since I'm currently feeling less passionate myself due to all the reasons I mentioned above. Passionate sex is tied to a passionate life, for me. am I being crazy or unreasonable? I don't want to bring it up to her again if I'm not being legitimate....
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