russian2 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I posted this on another website and was told that I am making a big deal out of this and that my GF is very trustworthy. I wanted to see what you guys thought. me (21) and my gf (21) have been seeing each other for almost 5 months now. She lives with her roomate that shes known forever. She was recently initiated into a frat in school. I was on her computer the other day when I saw she had left a chat open. She was talking to her Ex-Bf that lives out of state. This is how I remember it going down her: I was at the initiation party the other night. I have not told (russian2) or (roomate) but we all got drunk, started dancing and one of the guys brought me in to a room and tried to kiss me. Now going by this, they did not kiss and she denied him the chance to. She does not know that I saw this chat. Should I bring this up to her? I know if she definitly kissed him that I would have to bring it up 100% with her but considering she didnt, I am not sure what to do. I am very hurt by this but what hurts me more is she tells her ex and doesnt even tell me or her roomate. what do i do? Am I making a big deal out of this? Is she just trying to protect me?
Nexus One Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 The most important thing is that she remained loyal and did not let another guy kiss her even when she was drunk. I would be happy about that as a boyfriend. However, full transparency from both partners in a relationship is of course better, but since she stayed loyal I think she has some (positive) credits here in my opinion. She stayed loyal, but didn't tell you about the attempt of another guy kissing her. But you snooped around on her computer (somewhat). That being said. Is her roommate male or female?
Author russian2 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 well it looks like curiosity killed the cat and I am glad that I did what I did. She was acting very distant from me yesterday and very much unlike her normal self. I was studying and she was sleeping. Her phone was next to me and it went off. They have been texting eachother the past week or so. Some messages dirty talking about what they want to do to eachother. I brought it up to her and I told her that I am not going to be an option while I treat her as a priority. I asked why this happened and she said that I am not experienced enough shes my first girlfriend..... and that she didnt want to try to mold me. I have treated her the best that I have ever treated someone and just the fact that this all took place was the biggest F U to me that ive ever witnessed. Thanks for the help guys.
Nexus One Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 well it looks like curiosity killed the cat and I am glad that I did what I did. She was acting very distant from me yesterday and very much unlike her normal self. I was studying and she was sleeping. Her phone was next to me and it went off. They have been texting eachother the past week or so. Some messages dirty talking about what they want to do to eachother. I brought it up to her and I told her that I am not going to be an option while I treat her as a priority. I asked why this happened and she said that I am not experienced enough shes my first girlfriend..... and that she didnt want to try to mold me. I have treated her the best that I have ever treated someone and just the fact that this all took place was the biggest F U to me that ive ever witnessed. Thanks for the help guys. Good call man.
Author russian2 Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 UPDATE 2 more of an update. I let her friend roomate of 11 years know. She is kicking her out of the apartment when the lease is up and broke up her friendship with her for doing this to me. And now the roomate's family no longer talks to her
utterer of lies Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 UPDATE 2 more of an update. I let her friend roomate of 11 years know. She is kicking her out of the apartment when the lease is up and broke up her friendship with her for doing this to me. And now the roomate's family no longer talks to her Well, I hope you feel good now. Poor girl.
Author russian2 Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 Well she was a serial cheater. Do not feel bad for her. She has ruined every relationship she's ever been in
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