nyckidd Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 My gf of 2 years broke up with me 1 1/2 weeks ago. I tried to reason with her 2 times since then, and things were good but she had made it clear that our relationship was unhealthy and she needs to be by herself. I have agreed, and I can see that she is happy and is having no problem getting over me. She goes out with her friends all the time, and always seems to be in a happy mood despite telling me how tough this is for her. Anyway I finally threw all of our cards out, stuffed animals, pictures etc. It was pretty sad to do all of this but I know that this relationship is over. Part of me thinks I let it go to soon, the other part feels justified since she seems to be doing just fine. Was this a good move on my part?
betterdeal Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 It was good for you at the time, else you would not have done it. You did what you wanted to do. As it happens, I did that too and it gave me relief. I also wrote down a list of things I wanted to eliminate from myself (things like sarcasm) and burn the list as a symbol of getting rid of it. It worked for me. You did the right thing for you at that time. Now tell me, what else are you doing? Any self-improvement? Exercise?
JasonRules Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 My gf of 2 years broke up with me 1 1/2 weeks ago. I tried to reason with her 2 times since then, and things were good but she had made it clear that our relationship was unhealthy and she needs to be by herself. I have agreed, and I can see that she is happy and is having no problem getting over me. She goes out with her friends all the time, and always seems to be in a happy mood despite telling me how tough this is for her. Anyway I finally threw all of our cards out, stuffed animals, pictures etc. It was pretty sad to do all of this but I know that this relationship is over. Part of me thinks I let it go to soon, the other part feels justified since she seems to be doing just fine. Was this a good move on my part? Personally I never throw away pictures or things my exes gave me. They are part of my history/past.
Tom19 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 How do you know she's doing just fine? Maybe she's just wanting to keep busy to keep it off her mind? Maybe you should do the same? I know it's hard, so very hard to get by but if you keep yourself busy you'll get over things in time. What I find the worse is seeing status updates, photo's etc on Facebook, I want to delete my ex but it's too hard right now, I've took down picture's etc but I've kept them, I don't want to just throw things away that mean something to me.
Author nyckidd Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 Things like her facebook status is what tells me shes doing fine lol. That website is horrible for anyone going through a breakup. But idk I feel like I shouldnt have thrown away our things. But why keep them? Why keep the belongings that are so dear to me, when the physical creature that was so dear to me has decided to detach me from her life? Im pretty torn on this.
Author nyckidd Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 It was good for you at the time, else you would not have done it. You did what you wanted to do. As it happens, I did that too and it gave me relief. I also wrote down a list of things I wanted to eliminate from myself (things like sarcasm) and burn the list as a symbol of getting rid of it. It worked for me. You did the right thing for you at that time. Now tell me, what else are you doing? Any self-improvement? Exercise? Im currently trying to get back to my 5 day a week gym routine, which is hard for me at the moment because I dont feel like doing much. I do have a list of some things that I would like to change about myself like being selfish, and too egotistic.
betterdeal Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Start with one day a week, for half an hour. Work up from there. If you want to improve a muscle the best way is to slowly build up activity and take it to your edge at that time each time. Just like a muscle, the rest of your life, you yourself, is best improved one step at a time. There are no mistakes, just feedback.
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