bareclaw Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 (edited) Hello all, I took out a lovely young woman 2-3 weeks ago and we both had a fantastic time. She even took the initiative in wanting a kiss. After this, we talked and texted pretty constantly until the next time we got together. (She initiated contact several times, and mentioned that she thought about me a lot.) We were very flirty and I worked hard to keep up the physical and sexual tension. This past Sunday we had planned to hang out at her place but she mentioned she wasn't feeling well (cold or flu). I made a care package for her and went to visit her anyway (with her blessing). We talked for a while and then ended up snuggling and holding hands in her bed for an hour or two. We got pretty close and would've likely done much more if she hadn't been a little ill. When I told her it was time to go, she followed me to the door and hugged me tightly for several minutes. I literally had to push her off of me to get her to let go. Then we embraced again which involved her kissing my neck and grinding on me a bit. (I did my best to reciprocate of course!) She told me during this that she was happy. A day or two after this she started toning down her responses. We normally text a bit during the day and talk at night sometimes. I feel like we're growing distant instead of closer together. Granted, it hasn't been very long. I'm not sure if I'm over-analyzing or what. I suspect that she could've met someone else, or just adjusted to me or something. I asked her if we could hang out this weekend, but she's going home for mother's day. I like this girl quite a bit but I'd rather start moving on if it's likely she isn't interested anymore. Edited May 5, 2011 by bareclaw
Author bareclaw Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 Just a little update, I called the girl and left a voicemail saying I felt things had grown distant and asked if anything was wrong. I've had no reply since then, so I'd consider this case closed.
Author bareclaw Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 I can't figure out how to edit my posts. Anyway, the girl finally admitted she was seeing someone else. Maybe this'll be useful for others.
thehead Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 You can't edit after a certain amount of time. I read your posts. You sound like you chalked this up to part of dating and have moved on.
Author bareclaw Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 Oh yeah. I had guessed what was up well before she told me. It was just driving me nuts not getting any kind of closure that I'm used to. From now on if it goes cold I know what's up. It sucks because this girl was basically everything I'm looking for. We got along incredibly well and had better chemistry than any girls I've ever been with. Things happen though. There's plenty more of them out there.
thehead Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) Wait, what? No gnashing of teeth, raking your fingernails down your face asking what's wrong with you? Good attitude, man. That's not sarcasm. It's actually really nice to hear. Edited May 11, 2011 by thehead
Author bareclaw Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Well, it always stings a bit but it really helped finding out this happens all the time. As with everything else, you can whine or try to move on.
DreamerGirl27 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 If I liked more guys, I could have this attitude. Unfortunately, I've never been in love. With anyone. I've liked guys, but it's always been fleeting. The very first guy I've felt like I could be "in love" with, has stated he just wants to be friends. I am crushed, but slowly getting over it, but at the same time, nobody else interests me. There may be "plenty of other guys out there", but out of how many billions of people are on this earth, half of them being guys, I am attracted to about 1% of them. I am incredibly picky. Maybe you are just not picky. Consider it a blessing. It's taken me 2 years to get to the point where I'm not crushed that the 1 guy I have ever liked a whole lot doesn't like me back and in these entire 2 years, I have not found anyone else I like. Meanwhile, he's told me about several girls he at least finds attractive. I can't even find any other guys I find attractive. Like, I said...I am incredibly picky. Out of 50 guys, I would probably find all 50 of them unattractive. I have a precise style of guy I like and find attractive. If they don't look, walk, and talk the whole package, I'm not interested. It's shallow...but I'd honestly rather be alone, single, and shallow, than with someone I find unattractive and don't like the personality of. Anyway, didn't mean to make so much of this about me. Just wanted to say, I wish I could do what you do and just "move on". The fact is, I can't.
Mr.Raindrop Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Yeah, usually when they distance themselves like that it means someone else is involved. She's probably shallow, and found someone that was physically more attractive than you. I didn't say that to be a douche, it really is just what it means the majority of the time! It's great that you aren't crushed about it though, and have already moved on! Not many people are capable of that, man!
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