Spunge Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 The reason I'm asking is that I think everybody been there at some point, right? Either you did it yourself, or someone tried to make you jealous. Well, once my first boyfriend dumped me years ago, I did everything to prove how good my life was without him, I got myself into two rebound relationships and tried to pull it off in his face, so that he would miss me (which, by the way, didn't work at all. Lol) all I wanted to do with that was to get him back. How I thought it would work out? I have no god damn it idea. Maybe I thought he would be as devastated as I was when he got into a new relationship (Which wasn't a rebound at all, he sure was over me, but I weren't over him. Sad.) I mean, have anyone ever tried to make anyone jealous, just for an ego boost, or revenge maybe? Or have an ex obviously tried to make you jealous? And did you know why? Well, if you ever made an ex jealous why did you do so? Were you the dumper or dumpee? Is it different from these two "positions"? My recent ex is very obviously trying to make me jealous, and I only find it laughable, especially because he aren't any discreet. He were the one to initiate the break-up, so where he is going with it, I am not 100 percent certain. I did end up with the "power" and "dignity" though, by agreeing, and saying I was okay with it. (I'm not all sad, but I'm not allright either, though) I think this is a way of "getting back"/"revenge" than it is an attempt to get me back. What do you think?
JasonRules Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 No one has replied because getting with someone (aka rebound) just to make your ex jealous is immature and inconsiderate of the person's (the rebound) feelings. Just because your ex was an asz doesn't mean you have to be playing games with other peoples feelings to prove any point.
LayDark Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 No one has replied because getting with someone (aka rebound) just to make your ex jealous is immature and inconsiderate of the person's (the rebound) feelings. Just because your ex was an asz doesn't mean you have to be playing games with other peoples feelings to prove any point. Who said anything about rebound? There are dozens of way to make an ex jealous. I had this friend who dressed overly scandalous for the course. She was so embarrassed years later.
fetish Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 i think those are messed up games and wish people didn't have to play them, but they do. Right now, I would be crushed if I knew my ex was seeing someone else. If she told me about it or made sure I heard about it in some way, I would know it would be an obvious attempt to get me jealous. Why do people want their ex's to be jealous? To be in power? To try to get you back? If it involves you in any way, in a roundabout way its because they still have their focus on you. Your ex could be trying to put it on display to get a rise out of you. Now if you found out by snooping somehow, primarilty on his facebook page, then maybe he's not fronting and has really moved on.
tom1990 Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Jealousy is a horrible thing whether you get jealous over something on your own accord or if the person in question MAKES you jealous ... Today i had the unfortunate experience of my ex (as of last week) telling me that she has been seeing another guy this week ... Now obviously im jealous and part of me wants to and hopes that this isnt serious and she is doing it out of jealousy but nonetheless it HURTS ... The break up was pretty much my fault i was the bad one and treated her like **** for a few weeks so maybe she is doing this to get me jealous or maybe she actually does like the guy ... I personally had a rebound a year and a half ago when me and (the current ex still ) split up.. I went off with another girl for around 2 weeks and it was half to make her jealous and half because i actually did want to move on ... but we did get back together in the end Whichever way you look at it jealousy is a bad thing but its an emotion that we cant control and that some people will try to use against you
whoknowswhattodo Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 The reason I'm asking is that I think everybody been there at some point, right? Either you did it yourself, or someone tried to make you jealous. Well, once my first boyfriend dumped me years ago, I did everything to prove how good my life was without him, I got myself into two rebound relationships and tried to pull it off in his face, so that he would miss me (which, by the way, didn't work at all. Lol) all I wanted to do with that was to get him back. How I thought it would work out? I have no god damn it idea. Maybe I thought he would be as devastated as I was when he got into a new relationship (Which wasn't a rebound at all, he sure was over me, but I weren't over him. Sad.) I mean, have anyone ever tried to make anyone jealous, just for an ego boost, or revenge maybe? Or have an ex obviously tried to make you jealous? And did you know why? Well, if you ever made an ex jealous why did you do so? Were you the dumper or dumpee? Is it different from these two "positions"? My recent ex is very obviously trying to make me jealous, and I only find it laughable, especially because he aren't any discreet. He were the one to initiate the break-up, so where he is going with it, I am not 100 percent certain. I did end up with the "power" and "dignity" though, by agreeing, and saying I was okay with it. (I'm not all sad, but I'm not allright either, though) I think this is a way of "getting back"/"revenge" than it is an attempt to get me back. What do you think? This is wrong to do. You don't need to play with other peoples feelings for your own selfish gratification of making an ex jealous. If he does that to you he has a lot of growing up to do. I'm the dumpee and my ex got back with her ex boyfriend a couple days later. I've had people put pictures of me up with beautiful girls on fb but I didn't post them and I'm not trying to make her jealious. I know one day she will look back and say "man I fu*ked up the best thing that ever happened to me." She will do that on her own. Your ex will get jealous when they see you happy and they are not there. Doesn't matter if your with somone or not. So don't use people. If you should find someone else, you shouldn't look back or even question about your ex. DONT PLAY WITH PEOPLE'S FEELINGS!!!!!
Sugarkane Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Its not right but if they screwed you over and/ or are really hurting, people do these things. After you get dumped, people aren't really thinking straight like they normally would.
nana841121 Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 Emotion, feeling is continuum. we can't cut if off and let the feeling vanish out of a snap. what's the point of making ex jealousy? meaningless. Don't embarrass ourselves.
Fufu Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 You don't prove to him how good your life is without him. You just do it, you move on and forward. And by getting into rebounding relationships, I feel sorry for the guys that were with you. Your ex hurt you by breaking up with you, why do you choose to hurt those new guys. Whether you end those rebounded relationships or not, ultimately, you are hurting them. Revenge is for people who haven't do reflection on themselves. I hope you stop doing this and move on and forward for your life and future
Author Spunge Posted May 7, 2011 Author Posted May 7, 2011 (edited) No one has replied because getting with someone (aka rebound) just to make your ex jealous is immature and inconsiderate of the person's (the rebound) feelings. Just because your ex was an asz doesn't mean you have to be playing games with other peoples feelings to prove any point. This is wrong to do. You don't need to play with other peoples feelings for your own selfish gratification of making an ex jealous. !!! Revenge is for people who haven't do reflection on themselves. I hope you stop doing this and move on and forward for your life and future Seriously what are you people reading?! How much did you actually read? First, I wrote it in past tense, like something I did REALLY LONG TIME AGO, besides I was making fun of myself while doing it, you know, sarcasm, get that? I am not proud of it, but it's long time ago, and I'm not doing it anymore. Okay? I'm talking YEARS now. But my recent ex is doing it, and my respond to it, was to completely ignore it, because I find it immature by now. LayDark you're right. It's not all about rebounds, but people seems to get totally lost in what I write, huh? Oh and just to state it, my "rebounds" were not into anything serious, so I weren't hurting anyones feelings, okay? So before getting into all those stupid assumptions, you could ask, but first and foremost, it has NOTHING to do with my question. Also the ones stating "Maybe he wasn't trying to make you jealous, maybe he just moved on" Yeah maybe. But if I was looking for an answer for THAT I had asked for it, okay? I know what I know, so I'm not looking for "what if's" okay? It's not even important, wether he moved on or not, this is not a question for my ex in particulary, I just wanna know the mentally to behind it in general, because many (supposed to be) mature adults are pulling it off. And if anyone experienced something like it, I wanted to know why. Because I partly understand why the dumpee would do it, but the dumper? Why? I'm sorry, but why are everyone bugging me about this, FIRSTLY it's not the question. I'm asking for opinions on the WHY topic, opinions, experiences. NOT what I SHOULD DO. Thank you. <-- I like that bunny. It's really chill. Edited May 7, 2011 by Spunge
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