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ShoeGurl1973

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I have to admit, for the last couple of my7 post-breakup weeks I was feeling empowered and excited to be able to start again. I had developed a good "**** him" attitude and started going out to new places with girlfriends. Seemed fun at first, but honestly, it just magnifies the fact that I don't have energy to find someone new. It only makes me miss the familiarity and comfortability of my ex and wish we were still together. This guy lied to me consistantly and was an verbally abusive - how can I still wish i was with him? I wish my head and my heart would get on the same page. Until then, Im going to feel miserable and hopelessly alone. :(. I was doing so well, and all of a sudden I feel like I have made no progress. Maybe I'm expecting too much too soon?

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I have to admit, for the last couple of my7 post-breakup weeks I was feeling empowered and excited to be able to start again. I had developed a good "**** him" attitude and started going out to new places with girlfriends. Seemed fun at first, but honestly, it just magnifies the fact that I don't have energy to find someone new. It only makes me miss the familiarity and comfortability of my ex and wish we were still together. This guy lied to me consistantly and was an verbally abusive - how can I still wish i was with him? I wish my head and my heart would get on the same page. Until then, Im going to feel miserable and hopelessly alone. :(. I was doing so well, and all of a sudden I feel like I have made no progress. Maybe I'm expecting too much too soon?

 

 

Why don't you go out on a date? What are you waiting for? If you don't act, no one will act for you. Change your mindset...

smudge21 Established Member

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It's only been less than 2 months and you're expecting things to be perfect again. For some it can happen, for others it takes longer. Don't beat yourself up because you had a relapse. To quote Michael Caine in Batman "why do you fall, so we can learn to pick ourselves back up".

 

If you accept that you haven't yet fully healed and that once in a while, you will still feel down, then that acceptance will allow you to heal. It will happen, it just takes time. Read on these forums and many still feel bad after months, even years.

 

You'll be okay, in time.

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