Lentil Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 So my H and I have been living in the same house but trying to be pleasant but not too chatty. He's been in therapy for 2 months. The last time we really spoke (I guess 2 weeks ago) he told me he had not "checked out" of our relarionship. He also told me that the OW was having cold feet...hence -- I think -- his checking back in. But for all I know her feet got warm again. Yesterday he sent me an email saying he'd like to talk tomorrow. That he's come to a decision and that he'd like to share it with me. In the note he also said that I could "think about what he said for a while and we could talk again later". (This email came to me after I sent him an email asking for some credit card documentation and asking him if we could discuss spitting a card so I could plan a vacation this summer on my own dime. I was serious, I want to visit my sister on the West coast and I want to pay for the trip out of my own money.) This morning he asked me if I would like to go out (dinner I guess?) to talk about the issue. I said I'll be home after work and we could have a quick chat then. I stressed "quick" as I imagine he's out of this relationship. I think he's decided to tell me he wants a divorce...and I don't want to go out to talk about divorcing. I think that's a one sentence intial conversation and don't understand what he wants to talk about. I plan to just ask him to tell me what he needs to tell me when I get home. I don't need a discussion that includes appertizers! But truthfully I have no idea if that's what's on his mind; his comments that I can take time to think about what he wants to say is very confusing. And makes me think he may wisht to try to make it work. But I feel not....not sure why. This is all so fast. He says there is nothing much wrong with him so he's not going to more therapy -- maybe a session more or two. Oh boy, I can barely work now. This is the backstory: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/search.php?searchid=16030431
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